My husband and me have so much in common. There just one thing we have difference i'm too jealous. If he just look at a girl especially if she's nice I become jealous. it end up in arguing today i get so upset thinking about if he met he's x-gf he would rewind everything on his mind between him and his x. Pls. help me... Sometimes i hate myself!
2006-06-27 07:31:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you truly trust your husband, you should feel no jealousy. I think that this means that you should get to know him better and trust him that he would never cheat on you. Apparently it doesn't seem that you trust him a whole lot if you get jealous every time he greets a girl. If he doesn't have a reputation of cheating on women, then you have nothing to worry about. If you feel like he is flirting, don't get jealous, just do the same thing back and see how he likes it. Hope this helps!
2006-06-27 07:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Steffi! G 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well jealousy is an emotion that is a valid one but if it becomes an emotion that is constant then you have a problem and it needs to be addressed especially if it is effecting your marriage and your relationship with your husband. All the fighting about obsessive thoughts about an ex girlfriend is going to destroy you mentally and emotionally. If your husband is trustworthy then you must stop hounding him about other women. Now if he is giving off that vibe and your intuition is that he is up to something than that is why you are driving yourself crazy and need to decide whether to stay in it or not. Either way it is time for some counseling to work through it. I wish you luck and peace
2006-06-27 14:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what to tell you but I wanted to say that it isn't only people with a guilty conscience but also people who have been wronged that tend to be jealous or people who have seen alot of cheating. I don't believe you are doing wrong that's not why your jealous there is some other underlying issue hope you can find it honey good luck. Jealousy can ruin a relationship. Just keep telling yourself ALL THE TIME that he loves you and is with you maybe talk to him and he can help reassure you that you are what he wants
2006-06-27 14:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people get jealous because they themselves don't want to end up getting hurt in the end. That's how I am. The best thing you can do is just to control you're jealousy and if he looks at another girl just keep it in. If you start getting suspiscious i think you should lay it off for a little while longer, but still know you're boundries, like if he's oogling different girls every five minutes or something like that you should talk to him about it.
2006-06-27 14:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by emd1021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe most people that are "insanely" jealous is because they're insecure about themselves. Most security comes with maturity, but if you haven't gotten to that point yet, you may need to learn ways to appreciate and love yourself. If you're married, there shouldn't be any doubt in your head (unless he's a back-to-back cheater, you shouldn't have married him to begin with). Before blaming him for doing "guy" things like look at other women, ask yourself why you're being agitated by it. If you're still having doubts about him or yourself you probably should reconsider the marriage. You may not be as grown up as you thought you were.
2006-06-27 14:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by yesac1183 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can not help it out u know what? i found out some thing a gurls who are so pretty they are more jealous tthan others coz they always being admired by ppl and now ol u can do try to make ur self understand that u are so cool so perfect so pretty coz ur husband chosen u if he wanted to get along with da x one difintly he would have done that so he dint give a **** about her and any body else xept u and he thinks u are the best one... try to get some confidence c'mon what's gonna happen if he looks at some one else there are a lots of guyz look at u 2 ...
2006-06-27 14:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok calm down I think I have just the thing here is a verse from the bible Galatians 5:13-15 (13)You, my brothers were called to be free but do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love (14)The entire law is summed up in a single command "love your neighbor as yourself." (15) If you keep biting and devouring each other watch out or you will be destroyed by each other
also have faith in your husband I'm sure he would stay with you if your relly concerned though just try to sit down with him and talk about the subject
2006-06-27 14:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by darthtoasteroven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is realy bad for a marriage, you have to get a hold of your self and realize that something like that could end a marriage. sit and talk to him, tell him that you realize that you have an issue with jealousy and that you are going to start working on fixing it, but tell him that you need his support and that the one thing you ask of him is to not look at other women while he is with you, so that you dont have to see him looking at them, wich is wrong anyways he should not be doing that in front of you. and then go to a counselor and get some help! you just need to realize that you are the one with the ring on your finger not any of them, and that you are the one that can bare his children not them. you are married to him, so start realizing it and you will feel better, i wish you much luck on getting better.
2006-06-27 14:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think jealousy is a natural instinct for human being especially more with women and the cause is possessiveness.Right?
2006-06-27 14:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no answer to jealousy. You need to CALMLY tell him how you feel and he may be able to give you some insite as to what he feels about your jhealousy and what to do about it. Good luck
2006-06-27 14:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by nobody is home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋