My girlfriend has been away since May (she went back to her hometown for the summer) and I've been calling her and she never returns my phone calls. I mean she may ever now and then. But usually not.
When I text her, she is clear and to the point (how are you? I'm fine ; that type of thing) I'm growing worried that, she has lost interest in me or something... When I do talk to her she says she misses me and loves me etc. before I get off of the phone I'm always the one that says I love you first, if I dont she wouldnt say it.
Am I just freakin myself out, or do you think she is growing appart?
2006-06-27 07:28:03 · 6 answers · asked by Kyle W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kyle, I would suggest instead of obsessing about her - and Lord knows it is easy enough to do - work on something else. Go out and be with people. Not necessarily dating other women but being with a group of folks (like your martial arts friends) would help.
Women and cats pursue what runs away. Relationships are a two-step dance. If you are chasing her, she will distance herself. She obviously has things she is doing, things that do not include you. What your goal needs to be right now is to be VITAL and ALIVE and doing all sorts of neat things that make you a more attractive person. With you having things and not being so leaning forward, she will start leaning back toward you.
When you talk of your activities with her, do not brag about them. However, let her know you are doing things. Nobody wants someone sitting around and moping. Do not dwell on the "I miss you. Do you miss me?" kind of stuff. It puts too much pressure on her.
In the meantime, look around a little. I bet there is at least one lady who would be glad to keep you company. Just keep that friendly. Not saying romance her, but do not turn off looking.
As my father used to say, "Always have a date for the dance; even if it is with your cousin." BTW, my cousin was HOT! *grin*
Best of luck, I have been there.
2006-06-30 07:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by NeoArt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she doesn't want to hurt you, by telling you it's over.
Women usually are the ones who want to make sure their man knows that they are needed. We don't want the man we love to go anywhere.
As much as it hurts, you have to ask her to tell you the truth. Tell her you just know there is something different, and that she would be doing you a favor by talking to you now about it than later. That it is not right to lead you on. If she truly cares, she will tell you the truth. If not, you should know in your heart if you are wasting your time. Good luck hun...:)
2006-06-27 07:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry, but I think that you should end it. She probably thinks that she is letting you down easy, but it hurts even more. Martial arts, and history, right. Concentrate on these things instead of her. If you feel that you are losing her, and that you really do love her, go visit her, and try to figure things out.
Hope you work through it. :)
2006-06-30 06:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by aimeemay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry my man...it sounds like she is playing you. end it now and save yourself some heartache and move on. trust me, there is life after a breakup. dont let her ruin your summer by keeping you hanging on, especially since it seems that she seems to be toying with you.
2006-06-27 07:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u guys are
2006-06-27 07:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by jitu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just end it now
2006-06-27 07:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Beatifulhunnie1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋