Marriage -what do you think the key to marriage is?

Question

I think the key to making a marriage last is
communication with eachother,respect for eachother
& trust do you agree or have any other feelings about this?

Answer 1

My wife and I have been married for 20 years, 5 months. I was 18 when we were married and she was 19.
We have been to many marriage seminars and retreats. So many that I can't remember how many. NOW to answer your question. EVERYONE says "communication", respect...blah blah blah. These can come only when YOU truly have a DESIRE to Communicate and the character and intestinal fortitude to respect. The real KEY is a personal relationship with JESUS CHRIST. Think of a triangle. You on the left at the bottom and your spouse on the right at the bottom. Jesus is the point at the top. The more you get centered on Jesus, the closer you draw together. When you Love God, you end up loving people. When you have a genuine love for people, you love your Spouse. When you Love your Spouse, you will Respect your spouse. Ultimately, when you respect your spouse, it causes you to want to LISTEN, talk to and speak to your spouse, thus, you have COMMUNICATION.

May God richly bless you.

Answer 2

You're right... but communication means that two people can talk things out so as to come to an agreement. By the time people marry, they are pretty set in their ways and have worked hard to survive on their own. But once married, it’s not about a single person any more. It takes quite a bit of compromise and commitment to become a partnership.

I think a marriage should be a close bond between two people. They have to be on the same page about core values and goals. They have to be willing to put in an effort to be a part of the other person’s life. That means spending time doing things they want to, or helping them with their goals… giving up some of your own wants once in a while to help them with their dreams.

Common interests and goals help make the marriage easier. Trust and support are very important. Commitment and dedication… well, how good is it to know, that no matter what troubles befall you in this life, there is someone that will stick by you no matter what.

I just don’t think people should get married until they are very sure that the partnership I’m describing is in place. There is no rush to get married if you love each other. And even more importantly, do not have children until you are sure the marriage will last. Nothing is harder on a child or the parents. If you have a child and the marriage doesn’t last, you will still have to have a relationship with that person for the rest of your life through the child.

Answer 3

I think that the foundation of a marriage is trust, respect and good communication. If you respect your spouse then everything else will fall in place. Trust your mate because you will drive your self crazy letting your mind wonder. Suspicion can break down any wall of trust. If you can talk about anything then you can get through anything.

Answer 4

friendship.

Too many people go with this "oh, I'm in love" crap and they don't take the time to get to really know the person. Sex starts way to soon and becomes the focal point of the relationship. Friendship is totally disreguarded, when that happens all hope is lost. You forget to answer the basic questions like "are we compatable" do we believe the same way"

THen the actual routine of life begins and the "fire" of the new love is lost; we are stuck with a person who is "good in bed" but a total jacka** about balancing the checkbook and can't tell the truth if their life depended on it.

When friendship is built, you gain trust, communication, loyalty, and honesty. Just like with your drinking buddies and shopping girlfriends.

Answer 5

Of course all those are key!!

I think another important thing is constant effort! People stop trying to impress each other like they did in the dating stages. That's when things get stale, people get bored. Make the same efforts you did in the first year!! Husbands, leave your wives little notes on the counter before you leave for work, or stop on your way back and pick up her favorite bottle of wine! Wives, suprise him by beating him home, having the kids at the sitter's, wearing something sexy and takign him out (or staying home!). Do the things that matter most to your SPOUSE, not to yourself.....then your spouse will be most likely to reciprocate.

Answer 6

The key to a good marriage is for both people to commit 100% to making it the best marriage possible. If both people do that it'll be awesome and they'll be happy.

Answer 7

Those are really good, but I would offer one additional thing.

Good marriages are the products of compromise. One gives up part on oneself to make a marriage work. That doesn't mean giving up your personality or aspirations in life, but rather understanding that your actions and desire affect another person, and taking that person into account.

Answer 8

I agree and I think learning HOW your spouse gives and receives love, I think is key. example, giving gifts is a way of showing love, another is spending quality time, touching and hugging, and doing favors. A person could have one or three of these traits to show how they give and receive love, and once you find what YOUR spouse's is, then do just that to make them feel loved and visa versa.

Answer 9

i am agree with u. respect, communication and you gotta be faithful....is hard these days to keep a marriage togther..even if u trust ur man there are so many bi..hes that u ave to be careful.
good sex helps too. i think if u make ur partner happy everything is gonna be alright.

Answer 10

At my bridal shower, guest were encouraged to write down a piece of marriage advice. My two favorites were:
1. If you have the choice of making yourself look good or your spouse look good, always choose your spouse.
2. Tell your spouse everything you love about them, tell God everything you don't!