do you think that parents should have to pay child support when the parents that have custody get remarried??

Question

Both my husband's EX and mine are really bad about paying child support. His ex is suppose to pay 40 % of all child exspences each month for 3 kids. She has never done this in the last 4 years. So last year she agreed to pay 200 a month. She started off good, but now she always says she doesn't have the money( right after she tells us all the things she just bought or did) My ex was going in to the millitary when we spilt. So custody was set but child support was supose to be set by the millitary, or so thats what they said. But they just gave me the run around so I just took what he gave me. I had asked him for 200 a month. He payed about 1/2 the time. But since he has been out in the last 2 years he has only paid 3 times. They both seem to think that they shouldn't have to pay anything. They both make good money but go out a lot and buy a lot of things. They don't have morrgage/rent because some one eles takes care of that for them. Should they still pay? Or should we pay for it all?

are kids don't need for anything, but we do stuggle from month to month,and the kids miss out on many of the things we would like them to do

the more we nag the less they come around so we usualy just bite our tounge.

i would be happy with 50 per kid, that would help so much. If we took them to court they would both have to pay in the range of 300- 500 a month because where we live it is in relationship to how much money they make.

Answer 1

i truthfully think that child support needs to be taken on a case-by-case basis. In your particular case, yes, I think they should pay something and that it should go through the court system IF NECCESARY.

In a perfect world, after a divorce both parties should understand that getting along when kids are involved is more important than anything else at all. It should be that way with the expenses too, not just the fun stuff.

People are just selfish and stupid. I'm sorry for your troubles; if they were even trying it would be nice!

Answer 2

Take them to court. If they aren't paying what the courts say they are supposed to pay, then they can be in contempt and gtet into big trouble.

And, yes, ex's should still have to pay support even after the custodial parent gets remarried. Getting remarried has nothing to do with how much the ex's make which determines how much child support they should pay.

Only $200 for 3 kids? That is nuts!!!! It should be at least that for each one!! I know a single mom of 4 that is only getting $549 a month, IF he decides to work and have it taken out of his paychecks.

If the courts said that they had to pay a certain amount, and they are working but not paying, then the courts can have the child support garnished from their wages. Then they will have no excuses for not paying. Check with the local child enforcement agency and the courts to find out what can be done in your state.

It sounds to me like your ex's are dead beat parents and really need a wake up call as to what it means to be a parent. Since nagging them won't work, use the courts and child enforcement division. Then if they say anything, you can just say that the courts/judges/child enforcement division did this, not you.

Answer 3

Of course they owe child support ... they are legally financially responsible for their children until those children turn 18 or 21 depending on schooling. Just because someone has remarried does not that any financial burden off a biological parent.

Sometimes I wonder what people are thinking. Who and what do they think child support goes to or pays for!!

My suggestion ... bring them back to court and get something on the court records. You can't do anything without a good paper trail and documentation. It might cost a bit, but will be worth it in the long run.

Hold strong and stay happy!!

Answer 4

Yes the other parent should be responsible. However I believe on their own accord and depending on the situation. Yet what more can you really expect now that the both of you are remarried. Financial support would be great however emotional at this point for your children would be best...Take it from a Mom of three on her own. My oldest is adopted and when my husband was here he cared for all children on his own. Never expected to do otherwise never expected nor did or do I from the other father. Now I am raising the three on my own without much money and without much help but it can be done...be thankful and humble. Thank GOD that you have your children a loving spouse and a roof over your head.

Answer 5

now the fur will fly. I have been on both sides of the fence....should of been paid(my X)...and with new hubby (he is paying his X) For me - I got the gold(the kids), my X can keep his silver(his money)! My kids are well adjusted kids that to this day can't stand labels and put more value in relationships and working together than "Things" - There was always food on the table and even if it were short - they would bring others home to feed who they felt had less. They are like that today - kind, softhearted and genourous to a fault. Now on my new hubby's side - he has never missed a payment. She drinks, smokes, gambles, has been into the drugs we suspects. She travels, splurges and likes to keep up appearances. Granted the son has "things" but she has ultimate control on those "things" - he also will never starve, or go without a roof over his head. In our house - he will always have love. What it all boils down to is your own personal beliefs and what is important.

Answer 6

It has to be based on what they make, they have to be able to survive still too...but to answer your original question, I don't think the parents should have to pay child support, to the custodial parent after the custodial parent gets married. They married, knowing it was coming with baggage, and if the new spouse isn't willing to incorporate that *bill* into the marriage, then they shouldn't get married in the first place.
When a custodial parent gets married, they still have to live as well...the percentages that child support is based on in providing, not ONLY for the child, but for the house, car, light bills, heat bills...those thing's shouldn't be taken into percentages at all. The custodial parent and their new spouse, should have to be responsible...for SOMETHING...

Answer 7

Go to Family Court and explain this to them. Do you actually have a Child Support Payment agreement with your ex-husband?

There are enforment agencys that will make him appear in court and respond for this. You are entitled for back-pay child support from the day he stopped paying.

Go to the your City Hall and enquire report this to them as they will ask him to appear in Court or else get arrested. Whether he works or not or re-married or not he is still obligated to pay child support.

Good luck

Good luck.

Answer 8

I do think that parents need to pay for their children.You should not have to pay for them yourself..you did not make them yourself...i would get a hold of the state most have a program to go after dead beat parents.As for the kids not needing anything that's great but you should be able to do things with them and save for schooling and that's where the support would help 100%

Answer 9

When the parents circumstances change that has absolutely nothing to do with the children. The responsibility to the children is foremost whether they need it or not. If the parents decide to start other families and add to their financial burden they should have made better plans. It sounds harsh but that's the breaks.

Answer 10

Of course they should pay. It doesn't matter whether you marry Bill Gates of Joe Blow, those kids still belong to your husband/wife. They are not items that become the property of your new spouse when you get married. They're people with only one mother and one father. Some people just don't want to face that, and those people make it bad for those that do.