Should gays adopt?

Question

The way I look at it is: if I was an orphan waiting to be adopted and had only to choices: The Osbornes (stright) vs. Ellen Degeneres (Gay). whom would I pick as the adopter?

Being raised by nurturing responsible gay parents has got to be be better than junky, loud, dysfunctional striaght parents.

What do you think?

Answer 1

I agree 100%

Answer 2

I do agree that a loving gay parent would be better overall than a abusive/apathetic straight parent, however I do not believe gays should adopt.

Here are my reasons:
1. There will always be a loving straight family available to foster a orphan
2. Some (if not most) gays will agree that their sexuality is a result of their genetics. In other words, they would say they were born homosexual and did not choose to become one. If that is true, why raise a child in a homosexual environment that plays against the concept of "pre-determined sexuality" (Kind of a nature vs. nurture thing".
3. If gays adopted more, obviously their children would adopt homosexual habits (no not like hairdressing). As a result, there would be more children who are (or become) homosexuals. This kind of freaks me out a bit because if that trend continues over a long period, natural selection will take affect and eventually there would be a completely separate class of homosexual people. I against class segregation, so therefore I must be against gay adoption.

On the other hand, I do not agree with any law prohibiting gay adoption or gay marraige. If there are no loving straight parents available, then I see no problem in loving homosexual parents adopting an orphan.

Also, just because I think its worth mentioning.......try "A Modest Proposal" by Swift. Good short read on this subject. (Pretend Irish = gay)

Answer 3

If I were an orphan, waiting to be adopted, I'd like to have good parents, no matter if it's two men, two women or one and one. As human beings, homosexual people are just as capable as straight people to raise a child. Nothing in their homosexuality makes them unable for the task.

You know it's funny when some people say they have nothing against gays, but they cannot raise kids, so these don't become gays, too. If you've got nothing against gays, you wouldn't "fear" that a child becomes gay. Becoming gay wouldn't be a "danger". In other words, if you're "afraid" these children will be gays, that means you don't like gays, because the possibility that they become gays makes you "afraid".

Besides, considering that there still are so many jerks who despise gays, I'm sure gays would not want their children to be gays, and suffer what these parents have suffered during most of their lives. Thinking that gay parents raise gay children is not just calling gays immoral. It's calling them stupid, too.

Answer 4

Well, the ozbornes or Ellen is the 2 opposites of extremes, guy. As a rule I think kids need a straight mom and dad. Maybe there are exceptions, but a social worker I talked with said when gay couples adopt boys their sense of sex and masculinity is messed up when they reach their teenage years. I don't know how the girls turn out. Gay men with a boy sounds like a pajama party to me. I would say no, gays should not adopt.

Answer 5

I think that when a child grows up most adopted children want to know who their real parents are and having been raised by gay people may only make the child more messed up. I believe that some gay people are only confused. Not all but some. Therefore why try raising a child when you are unsure of the dynamics of life yourself. Man and woman. Adam and Eve. Get it.

Answer 6

I believe that as long as they go through the process, gay parents should be able to adopt. We have to be adult about this, and the one reason I think some people are against gay parents adopting is that they feel the gay lifestyle is not a good role model.

My feeling is that as long as the parents raise the child with love, who cares what their orientation is? Would these people who feel the gay couple is not good rather have a couple who would not love the child to promote their feelings? That is short sighted. There is no proof that I have heard that supports the theory that gay parents who adopt influence a child to grow up gay. I do believe they grow up with questions as to their family unit, but that is up to the parents to go over.

Answer 7

I don't think either of these families should adopt. A child needs a loving stable family and not dysfunctional, unstable parents with major issues in their life. No offense, but I don't think ANY child should be raised in a gay household. It is in the Bible that being gay is wrong and it will only ruin the child. How would you feel if you had two mommies or two daddies?? It just doesn't click with me.

Answer 8

I agree... I think that the sole responsibility of a parent is to take care of the child...regardless. Just because someone has gay parents does not mean that they will be influanced to be the same way, but it will only teach them to be more open-minded and non-discriminative...being gay is not a choice....we have to live with the guilt of feeling like we don't belong in society just because we have a sexual attraction to the same sex. As a gay man myself I know for a fact that if I were able to adopt I would do it in a heartbeat, and the fact of knowing that I can't upsets me because there are kids with straight parents who are coming up in broken homes and they need to find a safe haven...love is love regardless...never stop believing in what you feel,and thank you for asking this question.

Answer 9

Exactly. Gay parents have so many hurdles to go through that they have demonstrated that they really, really want the child or children.

I'm not saying that straight couples that adopt don't really, really want their children as well. I just would like to make sure that there aren't any BARRIERS to gay couples adopting.

It would be great if all children were adopted into homes without disfunctional parents, no matter what orientation those parents are. There are many great straight parents that aren't junky and loud as well! :o}

Answer 10

I think that the parents ability to raise a child to be a loving, caring, responsible person is the important factor here. Not sexual orientation. I am a straight person, but do not believe it is right to judge a person based on whether or not they sleep with someone of the same sex or not. There are so many children who deserve a good home that it seems ignorant of our society to place such limitations on adoption.

Answer 11

I feel that if you can't produce children conventionally (meaning men with women) then you should't be allowed to adopt. A child needs a mother & father not 2 fathers or 2 mothers. Adoption is great - for the conventional family. That child doesn't get to choose whether or not it wants 2 fathers or 2 mothers or whether is agrees with the lifestyle that the parents live. So why should someone who lives in sin like that choose that lifestyle for the child??