Sunday night my husband was so sweet and gave me a full body massage, then we ended up making love it was great!!! He said he wanted to do that for me......
But then Monday night he comes home, doesn't say much to me. Says he has nonthing to talk about. Studies in his office for awhile, and when he was done I told him i was waiting to relax with him...well he took about 40 mintues just searching stuff on the internet. Did not even make it a point to come when he knew I was waiting to relax with him. And I ended up falling asleep. Petty, I know....but why is this so hot and cold behavior? This doesn't make any sense to me, and makes me feel like I was just used that night for sex. I thought he cared so much, but this behavior makes me feel otherwise. What is going on here?
2006-06-27 07:11:21 · 12 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is this normal behavior for the next day after you made move? Seems like I'm just a nobody the next day, is that normal for a marriage?
2006-06-27 07:21:49 · update #1
we've been married 2 years
2006-06-27 07:25:09 · update #2
this IS a common behavior.
2006-06-27 07:47:55 · update #3
I don't think you were used for sex. He went to great lengths to make you feel good. He gave you a massage and really made it about you. I do that for my wife too. The next day perhaps he was having a bad day. There are a million reasons why he may not have been "tuned" into you. But that doesn't mean that he doesn't care. Sure, it's poosible there may be some bi-polar issues like a previous answer stated... but I think it's more than likely just life doing what life does. It sometimes gets hectic and gets in the way.
Also, LOTS of times, men don't pick up on the subtle hints you women drop on us. Sometimes you have to hit us on the head with bricks before we get what you're trying to convey. Men are much more direct than women and that's what we tune into.
2006-06-27 07:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by jekyll_hyde_you_decide 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First...Is this a common behavior? If yes, then there is a problem. If no, probably he had a bad day. Understand that men act like good parents: they do not involve their children in their hard times. As a husband, he does not bring to his wife the hardship of life. A good man tries to solve his problem on his own terms. Use patience and monitor the pace in the days ahead. If change comes positive(he has solved his problem without you being involved) If the sour behavior persists, engage into a conversation to probe the situation. Do not prejudge, criticize or condemn before you open on the truth. You will be glad you did as you will learn to know him,understand him better as a man first then as a husband second.
2006-06-27 14:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- Mondays is just a bad day for relaxation. The fisrt day of the week is ussually bad when you are working.
-Dear, you cannot get a full body massage everyday. Give the man some credit, would ya? there are some women that never got a massage in their entire marriage. Don't get dissapointed as the man is human and gets tired.
- Try to get him at the en of the week, Saturdays are great.
Good luck
2006-06-27 14:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm maybe it does have something to do with his sign like the girl above me said. (IF he is a leo lol) Because I'm a leo and I have those moods towards my boyfriend all of the time. Explain to him how you feel. Make sure commitment isnt causing this issue though if you know what I mean!
2006-06-27 14:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear
dont worry he do care for you but maybe he faced some problem in his work or his day was not very good,
when you see him like that next time try to talk to him about his day and make him feel you are interseting not looking for something you want
ok
have anice day
2006-06-27 14:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by nourssing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, men are satisfied after sex.
Almost instantaneously.
You weren't used.
He was genuine.
However, he's satisfied, while you are still steaming up.
Give him a few days, he'll want it again.
But know ahead of time that when its over, for a man, its over. There is no hanging around afterwards.....its where's the remote?
2006-06-27 14:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of know how u feel, in friend wise, though. did u say somethings without knowing that u meant it? maybe he a bad day, or theres going on and he is scaryed to tell u. have u tryed talking to him? and if u do show ur feeling toward it, show he that he means alot to u.
2006-06-27 14:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by hoping_13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long you been married? that's starts to happen, you get too comfortable with each other, do something to spice up your life together, maybe something different that's he's always wanted to try and you never had an interest in and don't forget to do something sexy for him
2006-06-27 14:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by jada_24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a Leo because my ex was acting just like that had to let his *** know I dont have time for nobodys drama.
2006-06-27 14:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is bipolar? That explains it in a nutshell.
2006-06-27 14:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋