2006-06-27 07:08:45 · 20 answers · asked by Babe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't force marriage on someone. If he wants to wait, you have 2 choices. One, wait for him for another 5 years. Two, leave him and find someone who is interested in settling down now. Not much more you can do.
2006-06-27 07:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old you are.
If you are 30, forget about him. Or be clear with him and ask him if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. If he is not sure etc, it's no use. If he does, then there is no point in waiting, you know each other well enough.
If you are 25, just tell him that in order to get married in a couple of years you need to start preparing now.
If you are 20, he is right.
2006-06-27 14:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are procrastonators when it comes to marriage, well most of them not all of them. the only thing i cant think to suggest is that you two sit and discuss the reasons why you want to get married and the reasons why he wants to wait so long. and if you both cant settle it there and come to a conclusion both of you are ok with, then sujest that you both go see a counselor and talk it out that way, get everything out in the open and ask for advise. if in the end you are not satisfied then do what you feel you have to do, if you can wiat, then wait, if not then leave.
2006-06-27 14:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow he wants you ta wait five more yrs and yall been together for three years already all i can tell you that you can't be sure that in five years he will be ready he might be trying to put you in a goose chase if you love him so much as to wait on him that long den that is love
2006-06-27 15:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Miss _Know_It_All 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married NOW you better find another man cause this one ain't gonna commit and if you force/pester him into it before he's ready it will come back to bite you in the a$$ later on down the road when he resents you for pushing him into marriage when he wasn't ready.
2006-06-27 14:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why five? Does he EVER really want to get married? I know its a tough choice but if you two want to go in totally different directions in life, you may need to go your separate ways.
My ex and I were together for 4 years. When we met we were both in our early 20s and neither one of us wanted to get married or have children. After 4 years I wanted to get married and have a family, and I realized that it wasn't with him. I realized he would not make a good father (especially because he didn't want to be one), and he wanted to travel around to 3rd world countries doing journalism. We went our separate ways... Two months after we split I met a wonderful man who is now my best friend, he is family oriented and settled down and we have so much in common. We're getting married in September. I never would have met the love of my life if I had tried to fit into my ex's world. I cared a lot about him, but sometimes if you love someone, you let them go. You let them be themselves, and let yourself go for what you want.
It is better to realize all this BEFORE you get married.
2006-06-27 14:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u bothered to ask ur bf y he wants 2 wait if not u should and hav u told ur bf ur reason 4 going ahead and gettin married. maybe u can comprimise and come up w/ a solution 2 the problem
2006-06-27 14:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by sweeterthancandy7493 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should compromise. Meet in the middle. Don't do it til you both are sure. Besides what is the hurry. You should live together for awhile before you go rushing into these things. Make sure you can tollerate all the little fustrating things he does wrong.
2006-06-27 14:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hun, dont rush into things.. just give ittime, yes, more time
marriage (to me) is just a peice of paper ....its what you truely feel is what counts...
hey, and plus if you REALLY REALLY wants to marry him, and if he just keeps blowing youo off, then, well, theres really not much you can do but leave..buit like i said, marriage is just a peice of paper/
ive been with my guy for 8 years this year in sept.. and well no marriage. but that doesnt matter to me, as long you guys are together
2006-06-27 14:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Alex-wine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u can wait for ur love...wait for 5yrs get settled well n then marry...if u think u can't..it's time to move on
2006-06-27 14:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Srk adc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋