If I could talk to her.. I would tell her that loving someone does not prevent us from appreciating the beauty all around us.. does not mean though that you love her less every time you see a pretty woman, it should even make her realize how much you love her, after all.. she's the one you are with.. you chose to be with her in spite of all the many beautiful women that you can see everywhere.. your heart only beats for her..right? tell her that other women can only capture your eyes, it's only her who captures your heart.
2006-06-27 07:17:16
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answered by katrina_ponti 6
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There's a difference between being attracted to women and sexually attracted to women. You can look at a women and think she's beautiful but if you think that you wanna F**k her then it's gone too far. That's usually something you should keep to yourself and work on it if you have a girl that gets jealous very easily or has low self confidence. By telling her these things or by her asking you these things will only make things worse. Plus if you are looking at other women in a way that you want them then you shouldn't even have a fiance. You can show her you love her by caring about her feelings and showing her that you care by not doing the things that you know bothers her. That's a loving thing to do. You just have to watch what you do around her but at the same time not doing anything behind her back that would cause her to not trust you and really mean it.
2006-06-27 07:11:15
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answered by Anonymous
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It is human to still find other people attractive although you may be in a serious relationship with someone. But if you have respect for that person you need to show it by being more discreet when looking at other women (I.E: a second look may be all right by no means ogle, try to catch that person's attention, flirt, or make comments to the one you are with about another woman or make comparisons!)
And all these women writing that it is your fiance's problem for having low self-esteem, I am sure they would not be as understanding with their mate if they were looking at someone at other women either.
2006-06-27 07:51:06
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answered by Selkie 6
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That is one insecure woman you are with. I don't think you can get her to realize that your looking at other women in no way affects your love for her. Women are beautiful creatures - meant to be looked at. She has to come to the realization herself that just because you think others are attractive, it does not mean that you find her less attractive or that you don't love her any less. I wish I could give you some better words of advice on this one, but there really isn't much you can do!
2006-06-27 07:06:15
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answered by thersa33 4
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My boyfriend and I both tell eachother that we are only human, yes we are going to think that other people are attractive, but we also tell eachother that other people are no where near attractive as eachother. Reassurance is the best thing to do in a situation like this one. And help her realize that you are a natural man, but even being a natural man and thinking others are attractive, let her know that she is still more attractive than them. At least you are a honest man, and not looking behing her back.
2006-06-27 08:30:38
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answered by alicia b 2
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Okay, first off, anybody who doesn't understand that it's possible to be both faithful and to notice other women has deep seated security issues. I mean, unless you're ogling them or fondling them, then you haven't done anything wrong. In fact, telling your fiancee that you notice attractive women is a demonstration of trust on your part--a trust she doesn't seem to reciprocate.
What you may have here is a really good wakeup call. For the rest of your life, you'll be dealing with members of the opposite sex. The office. In social gatherings. You name it. Are you really ready to be married to somebody who suspects you every time you have a conversation with another woman? If so, you're in for a very long and miserable marriage.
I tell my wife if I find another woman attractive. She knows that I would never act on it. To me, that level of honesty makes for a much happier and healthier marriage. Any other expectation is unrealistic and a tad infantile.
2006-06-27 07:13:14
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answered by Anonymous
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there are certain things in life that we are not supposed to do. One of them, is to tell our significant other , that we find other people attractive. That brings insecurity to that person. Keep it to yourself. Do not talk about it. Do not roll eyes to other women if you are with her. That's also called simply respect.
She's insecure about your love, because she thinks that she should be the only one you should have eyes/feelings for.
Jus relax, cool down...that's the best way to show your fiance you love her. Do all those little things that maybe she has always asked you to do and you always find excuses not to do them.
If you truly love her...show it. Don't just say it!
2006-06-27 07:05:54
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answered by loma35 2
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She needs to work on her self-confidence. You can help her by reminding her why you love her and telling her you only want to be with her. She needs to understand it's only natural for men to be attracted to beautiful women and vice versa.
2006-06-27 07:04:54
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answered by shae 6
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I think a postponement of the wedding until you are older is in order. We are all attractive to other people. You just don't act on it. When you are older, you will understand. She needs to grow up and act like an adult.
2006-06-27 08:19:07
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answered by buckeye45694 4
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If she doesnt realize that now drop her and get a new one. All guys look at other women. Doesnt mean you are gonna cheat!
2006-06-27 07:04:31
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answered by Anonymous
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