i am around 22 yrs old , i never had a good friend in my life, i always tried to act good with my friends like

Question

a true friend, but most of them were mean , they were with me coz of my money, sometime coz i am intelligent , most of the time coz of i have a car, i have started believing that i am too good to have a friend in this world, what shd i do , i need a friend....

Answer 1

I am 22 years old also. I've never really had any true friends either. Not one that I can consider a loyal friend. I know just how you feel. It really does suck to be there for someone, and try to be a friend, only expecting the same treatment in return. In return only receiving someone who wants take and take from you. Have you ever heard of e-harmony (I think I spelled it right). I was thinking they should make a compatibility site for people to meet friends also, just like they have for people to meet a partner.
Anyway, my advice is to start teaching people how to treat you. You seem like a really nice person, probably a people pleaser. Separate yourself from those who you don't consider true friends. You have to put yourself first sometimes. People will learn what you will and won't accept in a friendship. Good luck.... :)

Answer 2

Oh my gosh. I know what you mean, the same thing is happening to me now. And it's hard to not get your emotions wrapped up in a friendship, cuz at that time you think that their your friends. They only pretend to be your friends, just so you can spend some money on them at the store, or ask you for tips on school work and not (well in my case). But, then they'll go behind your back and talk about you like a dog. It's the same old saga, and I can't see why I don't wake up, I mean I'm realizing the clues and what not, but mainly its because their jealous. They are jealous because you're successful, and they see themselves as stuck, and want to take it out on you. They are pure haters, and never let haters stop you or whatever you're doing. You ARE too good to have a friend in this world, because people take you for granted, and are haters, and pure users. But even though this might seem like this, don't give up on those who might come along and be your friend to the end, because God will make sure that you do have a friend, and if not, he'll make sure you're strong enough to lead on your own. So stay up, and stay positive!

Answer 3

The first step to having a good friend is trust. It sounds like you have been disappointed in the past. You need to work through that. Don't let it rule the rest of your life. Count those others as lessons learned and then get back on the horse.

The second step is important. Look at the bad ones from the past and see where those friendships originated. Then don't go back there. Chances of finding gold in a bag of flour is mighty slim. If the places you've found friends in the past have produced negatives, then think of places of finding friends that are more apt to produce results. Go to places where you will meet people with similar likes. This does not mean you should only hang with people in your same social status or comfort zone. Rather, you should look at what is important to you and where you feel most energized and then go to those places and open yourself up to those who have similar likes. And remember, you have to be a friend to have one. Don't expect to find a friend with no effort on your part. It is hard work to have a good friend, but well worth it!

Answer 4

that's just how some people are, they only want to be around you when they need you for something
it's happened to allot of us, so don't be so hard on yourself
you just have not found the right people to be friends with
try to make new friends with people that share the same
job or other interests that you have
The one place that I made true good friends from was my church. They are always there when I need them &
they care about me for me & not what I have .

Answer 5

Friends have helped me beyond words.
At one point I was afraid to get hurt and had shut people out. To have a friend-be a friend, by listening and not judging but asking that friend if what they are doing is safe for them.
Show that you care...cars and money get used up and you don't need to "buy friends". Be there for someone and put yourself aside for a few minutes. See that they treat you well, but don't try to tell them what to do--just listen. It works!

Answer 6

First of all stop thinking that you are "too good" to have a friend, that is probably why you don't have any. Don't let people know you have money. Make them think that you really struggle for the things you have. You are the one who is making these impressions on them.

Answer 7

i think u r bit proudy dats y u find urself 2 good 2 get d best fren.everybody needs a fren nt an intelligent or rich person bt a person whom they can trust n share their feelin.u missed one more thing i guess your frens must b jealous of u coz u must b smart also.

Answer 8

You should NEVER let anyone take advantage of you because of your kindness! I've dealt with the same issue myself, so I had no choice but to let this person go, because something wasn't right. Just be yourself, and don't change yourself for anyone!

Answer 9

how to know when they are a ture friend is when they dont go behind your back and say stuff about you but when you find a best friend you will fight every now and then but in your heart you know they will always be there for you so dont let them down and they wont let you down but when you find a friend you will know when they are your ture friend or friends

Answer 10

i can be your friend if you want.and yes its true i have a freinds like that too....i didn't have a car at first and they wouln't really talk or hang out with me but then i got one (really fast audi s4 ) and now all they wanna do is hang out. because one day we were driving in the car and some girls saw and started waving at us i guess because of the car and my friends were like damn we gotta hang out more.........i was like ya right ...they use you....