If your spouses loves to chat with the opposite sex over the internet, and sometimes very intimate words are being exchange between them. How do you react on it?
2006-06-27 06:35:30 · 21 answers · asked by camcam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be very upset & suspicious about his reasons for doing it. Try talking to him.
2006-06-27 06:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by AngelWings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had a quick scan through the question/ answer how is it a "him" ? ?? ?
it said a "spouse" and "chatting with the opposite sex "
if we can automatically assume this is a guy flirting with the objective of having sex with a stranger...then whats the lady he is chatting with objective ?
but of course women show off breasts and shapley legs for themselves and members of the same sex right ? not to see if men find them attractive or if they still have pulling power
2006-06-28 10:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by broken_bumper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset, and probalby jealous. But more upset than anything. If he loves you why does he need to talk with someone else? If I were you I would be asking what NEEDS of his are being met by him talking with other people? If he is a man that wants validation, then perhaps you don't validate him and other people do. I would look at his needs, and your relationship. If a husband's needs are being met in a realtionship then he won't go outside of it. They will however turn towards others for things they feel they are not getting at home.
2006-06-27 14:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by dlmvm0612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront your spouse about the situation. explain how it makes you feel about them being online chatting with the opposite sex.
give them the opportunity to make the switch. if no change occurs, let them know that you will have to set boundaries in the relationship. once boundaries are established, stick to them!
if your spouse loves you and respects you, they will be willing to stop the behavior that is not appropriate.
2006-06-27 13:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think chatting is the first step which leads to more. My h tells me that it's just a fantasy. WELL! i just read his e-mails and found he met some of these girls out. I think he f---ed them! I'm getting ready to confront him on this.
Talk to him rationally and calmly as possible and let him know it hurts you. Ask if there is something you can do to help the situation; for example, chat with him yourself if you have a 2nd computer.
Most importantly, communicate your feelings and ask him his feeling regarding the situation.
2006-06-27 14:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i chat all the time, and my partner is totally fine with it, however i would never say anything intimate 2 anyone other than my partner.
its not nice what ur mate is doing, and if it were my other half i would b very upset! why talk intimate with someone other than you? make sure u make it clear that u will not tolerate it, how about if the roles were reversed? would ur partner b ok with u behaving in this manner, i think not.
good luck. :)
2006-06-27 15:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by missilibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would chat with them too and send them scanned copies of all of his bills and tell them that he told me he asked them for money and hasn't gotten it yet and he's very upset about it. So when can we expect the money as the bills are due right now! I'd tell them that I told him to get a job but he keeps reassuring me these women will send him money and support him. And I'm very concerned about his STD problems and he says well until these women send me the money, I can't afford to go the doctor.
Girl, I would tell them so much **** that they would stop chatting with my husband. Then I would go after him.
2006-06-27 13:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have an open and honest marraige if one of us communicates with a memebr of the opposite sex, we share it with the other. There is a turn on to the idea of flirting but not being able to act out on the fantasy.
2006-06-27 13:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MARRIED couples should not be intimate with other people in any form. PERIOD. If they are, then obviously there is a problem within their marriage.It's WRONG. Wedding vows are suppose to be a PROMISE. UNCONDITIONALLY. SACRED. Once that promise is broken,then the trust you had is destroyed.Leaving a person feeling empty and unwanted.
2006-06-27 14:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be nothing at all and he sees this type of activity fun .. maybe he's a little immature and likes playing games with other women .. !
It could also be a very bad thing .. he could start feeling some type of connection with these women and act on his emotions !
I would have to say something to him about his behavior ! It could lead to other things ... !
2006-06-27 13:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be appreciative that they have a good and healthy labido. The next step is to inquire if they want to try swinging.
2006-06-27 15:36:41 · answer #11 · answered by Mike H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋