My sister told me she has been taking Zoloft for months now. She is not in therapy and she is doing nothing to help her situation. She has a 3yr old and she works 2 jobs (hair stylist/waitress). Her husband is a janitor who is 30 with the mentality of a 17 yr old. They are in credit card debt. My brother was on anti-depressants and he took his own life almost 2 yrs ago. She trusted me with this info that she's taking the medicine, knowing that the rest of my family would be very judgmental if they found out. How do I tell her that just taking this medicine won't solve her problems?? How do I help her help herself? (I live in a different state 8 hrs from her).
2006-06-27 06:07:16 · 7 answers · asked by sonik_starz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She has panic attacks at work and "flash backs". She has never taken the time to properly grieve/deal with my brother's death. She was in counciling but her insurance would not cover it and she could not afford it. Her husband is a child himself and gets angry when he does not get his way (he's the main reason they are in debt). She is in charge of all the finances with no help from her husband, whom she can't even trust with a debit card. Their relationship is not healthy and she has told me she thinks of leaving him but they have a son. She has told me her husband is not there for her emotionally. I try to be but I don't know how to make her open up to me. I only want the best for her, I do not want to see her suffer.
2006-06-27 06:19:34 · update #1
Therapy is something one can only start by himself/herself. You may suggest it but pushing the issue may only trivial your relationships with your sister. You can tell her that you are worried about her, and really want to help in any way you can (make sure to use "I" vs. "you"- so that you are letting her know how you feel about things without putting a judgment on her. The best you can do is be there, be supportive, be non-judgmental, open-minded, and kind... So that she will turn to you for help -which she will only do if you make her feel safe to talk to you about anything...
It is always difficult to see friends and family go through tough times but it is their journey, and their load to carry... And you have to learn to let go and accept that this is her life... Just make sure to be there for her. In the long term, it will make all the difference... Good luck...
2006-06-27 06:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Oh, well! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes family just need to have someone there to love them no matter what is happening to them in there life now.
I think one thing you can do is just be there to support her and care for her I am sure that when your sister is ready she will open up to you.
I am a little concern about her taking zoloft without a doctor monitoring her with dose and blood test to see if the medicine is working property. Just love her and she should be fine
2006-06-27 07:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that to start the road to "recovery" your sister needs to take her son and get away from her husband. He doesnt even seem mentally fit to have a kid. Tell your mom about your sister takin Zoloft. Even if she doesnt approve, she can help, somehow. Thats what parents are for. Be patient with your sister, because she isnt going to be very willing for help right now. Try to make her understand that your just want to help her and your nephew. He doesnt need to deal with things like that, depending on his age, he could be emotionally and psychologically scarred.
2006-06-28 02:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by April T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does help some people but not everyone. Also Zoloft may not be the right one. Sounds like her life is screwed up enough to make anyone depressed. Maybe she should be changing that instaed of taking pills.
2006-06-27 06:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't want help, but you can start by asking if she has ever thought about getting into counsiling so she has someone to talk to..I've always thought a counsilor is like a diary with a concience and you can tell them whatever you want then hear an objective opinion on your thoughts. that would be the first step..Actually, what is her problem anyway? Is she depressed about her life, or are you depressed about her life
2006-06-27 06:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Willl you will know at the right time. It toook me about 2 years to tell my mom a very serious thing.
2006-06-27 06:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs psychological behaviour n u hav to do it positively.
2006-06-27 06:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋