how can I stop thinking about girls so much?

Question

i want to think about boys, not girls. i don't want to be like this, im going to get crazy.

i just want peace in my life

im 16 do u think this would go away of my mind

Answer 1

sweetie,

think long and hard about it, and look at it like this: Do you like chicks? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy? ok now think bout this: Do you like Boys? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy?

now honestly which idea do you like better?

there are lots of support groups out there for bisexual, homosexuals and hetrosexuals, that deticate they're time from trained volunteers and peeps that have been there that would be gald to talk to you and help you figure out and be there to support you no matter what decsion you've made, always remember you have to do what your heart tells you, and always be happy and do what will make you happy, then your not failing yourself and you must remember that others are not you and they can't make the desicion for you and they shouldn't influence you, this is something you have to do on your own for yourself.

so be straight, be bi, be gay, just remember most importantly be happy and be you its better in the

Answer 2

The question truly is what do you feel like when you think about girls? Does it excite you and make you feel good or is it just scary knowing what you're thinking about. These feelings are very normal, but if you are trying to get rid of the thoughts in order to not be looked down upon by people you know, then there is a problem with your comfort level around this issue. Everyone who has ever had thoughts towards the same sex has gone a little crazy. I have had these same feelings. It is a new feeling of self-doubt but perhaps it is also a realization that you may be interested in something else. This is something only you will be able to come to terms with. But honestly, if thinking about girls makes you feel good then that is what you need to realize. It is not easy all of a sudden knowing that all you think about is the same sex, but you can't fix how you feel. What ever you decide know that you can't avoid these feelings forever and they will just resurface later in life. #1 thing, be true to yourself.

Answer 3

No sweetie it's probably not going away, and you're not going crazy. It's society that's crazy they're the ones that place stipulations on love. It's not a bad thing, and your not bad for thinking that way, and the sooner that you realize that, and come out to your family, the sooner you'll be living a more care-freed life. God Bless You! and Good luck to you dear.


There are sites that can assist you with any problems or questions that may arise; simply type in your search engine " how to come out of the closet" and don't put ".com" at the end and tons of useful sites will pop up. I promise that IT GETS GREATER LATER! Take care, stay strong.

Answer 4

Relax. Now relax again. Now relax even more. Now take a deep breath. Good. Now, listen:

This is normal at 16. It doesn't make you a freak, it just means your hormones are still a little wacky. They'll settle down. In the meantime, don't put too much thought into this, and don't think you're the only one who does this. I just got finished answering a question exactly like this, and I am telling you what I told her. These will happen, but in time, they will decrease dramatically. Just calm down and be patient.

Answer 5

Why do you want to stop thinking about girls?

Are you afraid that your friends and family might not accept you? Seek out a local support group - perhaps a chapter of PFLAG, and talk to someone that can tell you what it's like for them being 'out' in the community, and what they do when faced with people that disapprove.

Are you afraid that your god will punish you or otherwise disapprove? If that's the case, talk to a member of your faith, someone you trust. If they don't approve, know that there are many people of faith that believe their god loves them and created them to love - regardless of gender.

If the problem is within yourself - you think there's something wrong with you for feeling the way you do, please consider getting some counseling.

Answer 6

This is a frightening time in your life I know. One of my best reassurances would be that the gay community is not only friendly and growing but becoming more and more accepted. It is much less difficult a life than it was 20 years ago and things will be ok. I suggest you try to contact a local chapter of a gay youth support group. All you have to do is yahoo "gay teen support groups in (insert your location here)" The community will welcome you and help you come to terms with what and who you are and help you get on with your happy life. Embrace who you are, you are a wonderful person and there is nothing wrong with you, best of luck.

Answer 7

Just because you think about girls doesn't mean you have to start dating/dealing with them. Your not that old and it may pass, if you know in your heart that you like boys then yes it probably will pass, only you know how you truly feel. you might be curious,about girls because more and more people are coming out and talking openly about the subject, this dose not mean that your gay/bi or anything else. don't beat your self up about it, you say I don't want to be like this, like what? you haven't done anything. when you find your self thinking about a girl, just change your thoughts to a guy you like of find cute. you might want to think really hard and figure out where the thoughts are coming from if what I said isn't helpful. Just remember to stay true to your self, cause we can lie to other people, but not to ourselves. Good luck :)

Answer 8

I fough it very hard many years ago. It did not go away so I surround myself with people who care and don't give a sh** about those that don't. I love my wife, and am happier than I could have ever been with a man. I am now 42 and love my life!!!

Answer 9

it depends on if you like the girls personality or are physically attracted to them despite the fact they have a horrible personality---maybe you just are mistaking admiration and friendship for thinking you are some kinda lez or something----try to find a guy who has the same personal traits as the girls you like to hang with---theres alot of really awful guys out there--and alot of really awful women too---despite whether they are gay or think they are gay--just find the right guy or girl that you are the most comfortable hangin with

Answer 10

be who you are if you like girls then be with girls....do you want to fake a life or a romance with a man get pregnant and tare things aprt cause suddenly youve come to the conclusion that life isnt for you you LOVE women...dont let it get that far be yourself....I think you avatar is cute...wink wink...lol

If you just want peace in your life sweety...stop going to war with yourself