14 y/o stalker problems?

Question

I have a 14 y/o daughter who is being harassed by a 14 y/o boy that is obsessed with her. Last night he called her cell phone 31 times between 1:30 am and 4:00 am. And he called our house phone 5 times. We have asked him to stop, but he still continues. He goes over to her best friends house looking for her all the time, she lives near him. This boy was arrested and kicked out of school last year for selling drugs and fighting. After that he was not allowed to be on school grounds. So every afternoon he was parked on the street in front of the school with his older brother.
This is something that is really scaring me. I know that he comes from a troubled home, lots of violence. I feel bad for him, but the authorities know what is going on in the house. When school starts back up again, he will be back on campus with her, and has threatened her & her friends. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can you file for a restraining order against someone so young?

I have talked to the school officials regarding this. And he did stop bothering her for about a month, but he has started back up again within the past week or so.

He calls with the number block on his phone number, but we still know it's him. She never answers her phone when it is him. And her and I switched cell phones yesterday, so he now has my number, not hers.

Thank you all so much for your answers!

Answer 1

First off, I hope this turns out okay for your daughter and family. I would do a couple things. I would change all of the phone numbers to be unlisted and put the phone feature on the phones that traces calls. If he calls and you don't want him doing it then you could press the *?? and the phone co. trace the calls. At least that would be proof from the phone company of all the calls. Second, go to the police and press charges of stalking, harassment or whatever they will be willing to do and also file a restraining order against him and possible his older brother because he is driving. If he breaks the RO then he could be arrested. If all else fails, then go find a lawyer, prosecutor or victim advocate that might help your daughter out.

I do have a question for you and maybe its something that you haven't thought about, but why hasn't someone done something about a 14 year old not being in school? Even though he was kicked out, isn't he supposed to go to an alternative school or somewhere else? That might be a starting point too.

Answer 2

Well, here are some ideas. Change your daughter's cell number or get rid of it all together. Use the call block feature on your home phone to block his number. Speak to the police and file a report. Yes, you can get a restraining order, but I would suggest filing a police report first. Why have you waited to get the police involved? You should also speak to the school about this BEFORE the new school year begins. Call the police, now.

Answer 3

This guy needs to have a fatal accident. If that can't be arranged the authorities are your next best choice.

I can see no reason why you couldn't get a restraining order against this person. The trouble with these orders is the cops can't or won't actually enforce it. All their actions seem to come after the fact.

I realize as well as anyone that moving is expensive but it may be your best option. I really hate to hear about this sort of thing, it seems to be a large part of our society these days.

I sure wish you the best just get the cops involved and be vigilant.

Answer 4

You can contact authorities. I do believe you can get a restraining order at this age but it might be a fight.
Not only can you contact the authorities but you need to.
Keep records of when he calls her phone etc. And be persistent.

Also get your daughter help. Make sure she has her cell phone at all times. Get her into a martial arts or self defense class. Also get her one of those sirens that you can set off if you are attacked, some mace etc. Better safe than sorry!

Good luck I know this must be scary for you!

Answer 5

Kittiya, i'm no longer effective what you recommend ... Do you recommend you've a 14-three hundred and sixty 5 days-previous that is stalking you? or you've had a stalker bothering you for 14 years? with somewhat of luck that is a 14-y.o. stalker, who's way more straightforward to attend to than someone obsessed in stalking you for 14 years!

Answer 6

I'd make a police report every time he threatens or harasses her. No one should have to put up with that. Ask about filing for a restraining order, but you'll need police reports to document what is going on before you can file for one. Good Luck.

Answer 7

You need to file a police report and make sure you detail every time he called: time, date, anything said by both sides.

File an initial report, and that will also set you up for a restraining order. Yes, you can get an order on him.

Answer 8

I'm not sure about filing a restraining order, but you can surely get the police involved. When I was 14, this boy at school would call and hang up like, a hundred times a day, on our land line. My mom was so mad, she got the cops to go to his house and talk to him (we'd gotten them to trace the calls to make sure it was him). It quickly stopped.

Answer 9

I think you can file for a restraining order at that age and you probably should. I also think you should talk to the police and find out whatelse you can do for your daughter and for this child.

Also, if you haven't, talk to your daughter, make sure she understands your concerns and why it must be a certain way. She may not want anything to do with him but she may also pitty him, that pitty can eventually be an in-road to her if not handled wisely.

Answer 10

Let you daughter tell him that she is not int rested in him, and further more she is not ready for a relationship at her tender years,I was wondering how he get your home phone number and her Cell phone number, don't get mad get even in a nice way, If I get the obsessed person phone number I could talk to him for you
good luck