Sometimes she's the COOLEST person in the world - we laugh and joke around...but she can turn on a dime at ANY second and be super-serious and sometimes really bitchy. I know she's my boss and I'm there to work for her, but she makes it difficult because sometimes she acts as if she's my friend (I know that's not a good thing). I'm walking on eggshells when I come into work every day because I don't know what kind of mood she's in. If I hear her laugh when I first get in I feel relieved. I feel like my mood/stress level is affected by what mood she's in. I even had to pop a xanax yesterday - how do I make this not affect me so much? It's exhausting!!
2006-06-27 05:29:08 · 10 answers · asked by mendham93 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I also have a part-time work-from-home business so please stop trying to recruit me - thanks!
2006-06-28 16:10:44 · update #1
Hey I can relate. I worked for a whacko of a boss for 8 long years and she made me feel very nervous because she took great pleasure in bringing people down one at a time... but then she would be nice to them the next week and then wham!!! She would take you out at your knees...well, in 8 years she never changed... so that is probably the way your boss will be until you leave or your boss does.
Strategies- no eye contact unless you have to speak to her.
DO NOT go out of your way to be extra friendly as this is percieved as a weakness in their eyes. ( You think you are safer when you are friendly but you are not) Do your job well so you don't give her the opportunity to ream you out. I tried to kill my boss with kindness and things got worse... I stopped and she started to be nicer to me. Go figure?
She was nasty with many of the staff at my work and we grouped together and supported each other making us stronger as a group. HR was called many times but nothing ever became of it. Keep your chin up and don't be afraid of her behavior. I know it is easier said then done... but if you stop caring what she is bitchy about then you will find your sanity will return slowly.
Time to tune her problems out and do your job to the best of your abilities. If not there are many other jobs out there...you will have to go hunting.
2006-06-27 06:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by smilingmick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a boss like that but she is going through menopause! Since I have no clue as to her age bracket, I think that you should possibly look into getting another job. No one should have to endure their job or be exhausted like you are! How many other people work there? Are they affected like you are? Only you can solve this problem because there are too many unknowns. Unless you can have a frank discussion with her and let her know how much her attitudes are affecting you than the situation is not going to change. The ball is in your park!
2006-06-27 05:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 21:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by jakiela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can ignore her completely and work like a mechanical automaton with no responses then you'll be on the safe side. Sometimes familiarity breeds contempt. Let the bitchy broad laugh and scream to herself as she pleases with no response, or else find yourself a new job.
2006-06-27 05:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're taking medication to deal with your boss; its time to find another job. You can get another job but you can't get another body or mind. Your boss may not be aware of her actions. Its a sticky task to address her, since she's the boss and might be offended. I was once in your situation and address my boss, which meant I had to find another job. Perhaps you can transfer to another department.
2006-06-27 05:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult to work with someone like that, because shes your boss.
I would quietly start looking for another job so you can get out of there.
Your stress level is probably related to the fear of her freaking out so bad one day she fires you.
2006-06-27 05:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-27 06:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-27 05:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by kehrlyfamily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She prob needs a man
2006-06-27 05:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by mrshunter_2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to find a new job:)
2006-06-27 05:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by WORD UP G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋