2006-06-27 05:24:34 · 20 answers · asked by Texas318-222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
On my experience, communication is very important. If something is wrong tell your partner about it honestly and if it's about him, tell him about it nicely, at the right time, at the right place. Also make time for one another. Others think that having sex is already time for one another but that's not it. When your spouse comes back from work, make an effort if you can like wait at the door to greet him/her just to make your partner feel special and want. That you are excited to be in his/her presence. Also even just 10-15 minutes, just hugging or kissing, or just a simple conversation about what happen with his/her days while cuddling, simple things like this really means alot to a relationship. Or if you have time on the weekend go out for dinner or just cruise around, go to the beach watch sunset, exercise together stuff like that.
2006-06-27 05:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Koken 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be suprising to a lot of people, but western marriage is a religious tradition. All the basic principles of a successful marriage between two autonomous people are based on the bible. Evidence of this can be found in the way women are treated around the world. Only in traditionally christian countries is marriage a relationship of equality. Marriage is a defined system, comparable (in some ways) to many physical systems, such as an engine. Therefore, if you follow the "ownder's manual," printed by the "manufacturer," you'll be okay.
This is not to suggest that a secular marriage cannot work, because it can. But divorce statistics speak for themselves. It's harder to have a successful marriage outside the bounds established by bible principles.
Likewise, this does not suggest that every married christian will be in married bliss. Many people are christians, but don't pay enough attention to their bibles. Just like the car, the manual can't help you if you don't read it.
2006-06-27 12:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret to a great marriage is realize, first and foremost, you have to be "in like" with your partner; best friends. The romance pendulum will swing back and forth over the years. There will passion at times and frustration at times, but if you genuinely love your partner as a human being it will last a long, long time.
2006-06-27 14:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by chuckie2222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Never let bills become a bother, both of you worked on getting them.
2. Never call each other names, they hurt and you can't take them back.
3. When an argument does occur, one person leaves, let the situation calm down, then both of you sit down calmly and discuss it.
3. Never go to bed mad.
4. Never go to sleep without saying I Love You.
5. Don't listen to the BS from other people about what the other person is doing.
6. Treat your marriage as a 50/50 partnership. You guys are in it together.
7. Trust your mate.
2006-06-27 12:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man always holds the door open for the woman, and the woman always says 'thank you'.
What it really means is that you must always respect each other and never take each other for granted.
It helps if you have dated for a long time before marriage or if you were friends before (my husband and I were friends for 2 years and dated for 5). That way, when he sees you drinking juice straight out of the carton the day after the wedding, he won't be surprised.
2006-06-27 13:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Macbeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things...the first is love. If you have that, you are half-way there. Now the second is communication. Always let the lines of communication be open. Share your feelings with each other often. If there is a problem, talk about it. Don't keep everything inside. That is the way problems grow out of preportion and damage relationships. Talk it out, share your true feelings, ask for the other person's input.
2006-06-27 12:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good communication even when you know it is going to upset the other person. Another secret is learning how to correct or help in a way that they like.
2006-06-27 14:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret for us is that we are best friends. We are able to tell each other anything without fear of the other thinking any less.
2006-06-27 12:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPACE to be individuals. Marriage is like two trees. They are intertwined at the roots but grow stronger and taller independently.
2006-06-27 12:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by gqenoel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great honest and true communications. Thats the key. Once that breaks down, things go downhill from there.
2006-06-27 13:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋