I'm 19 and I am Bi. I look at gay porn once in a while and I can not seem to stop. I have feelings for both guys and girls but my feelings for guys is stronger. I'm a christian and I became a christian when i was young and alot of things have happened since. Since i'm Bi can i change and turn those feelings off for the guys and get stronger feelings for girls? Can I change the fact that i am bi and change to being straight if I work at it? If so how can I go about it? thanks for any answers you may have for me!!
2006-06-27 05:22:55 · 27 answers · asked by steelerdude15 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Hey bro, i know exactly how you feel. I actually used to be gay. I knew that the bible talked against homosexuality and i felt trapped in this sin that i wanted to get out of.. Well i read this verse.. 1 corinthians 10:13
No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.
that verse changed my life, God will name THE WAY of escape that you my brotha will be able to endure and overcome it.
That WAY is Jesus! He delivered me from homosexual attractions and now im delivered and straight! Of course, people will say oh no, im denying it, or i was never gay, but bro as i live, i am a testimony living and breathing of the glory and almighty power of God, that God is powerful enough to change sexual orientation and take that desire away.
Id love to talk to ya more bro, please feel free to email me and i can tell ya my complete testimony and how i was delivered. Im praying for ya bro, hope to talk to ya later man.
God bless
ps. might i suggest for you to be sure to try ur best to read like 1 chapter of the bible a day at least. Its not long, and i promise you its worth it. Start in Ephesians then 1st John, thats my advice to ya :) cya bro
2006-06-27 05:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 5⤋
Some school of thought suggests that one does not necessarily choose his sexual preferences, but learn them.
The 'bi' lifestyle offers the 'best' of both worlds, supposedly---according to 'magazines' and 'porn'.
Our 'stifled society' supposedly 'led' by religious concepts and mores---is not necessarily absolutely correct.
If that is the case, all you would need is some willpower and NOT look at gay porn.
HOWEVER, that being said, there is the possibility that you ARE in fact genetically bi, or ARE completely genetically gay, and that would suggest that you were, yes, brought UP to believe that you are 'merely bi"' or 'merely hetero,' when in fact you are not.
You have to know your own mind. Pay a lot of attention to YOUR wants and use common sense instead of those perceived in "magazines" and you'll find out if you're bi in fact---- in no time. Try concentrating on the fact that you ARE a human being with sexual needs--- and whatever you do, practice safe sex.
2006-06-27 05:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your Bible and get to know the Old Testament as well as the New Testament. As you get to really know God and Jesus, you will endeavor to be pleasing to God. That outweighs a lot of sinful behavior if you put your eternal soul on the line.
Porn is very sinful. A lot of people are addicted to it. You could better use your time in volunteering for a worthy cause. Talk with your Pastor or Minister about your problem. If you spend more time living in the Word, the trappings of a sinful life will be less of a temptation for you. Alcoholics who want to stop drinking do not go out and buy booze. Porn is just as damaging to a person.
2006-06-27 05:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by kathleen m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling.
First of all, being by is a choice those feelings are temptations from satan. Guys being with guys or girls being with girls is wrong. It is in the Bible! Just stop looking at gay porn(stop looking at porn). And start praying that God will help you. You cannot seriously be bi and believe that it is not sin. You are sinning. You need to hold your thought captive. Renounce you bisexuality aloud in the name of God so that satan will be forced to leave you alone. Get some Neil T. Anderson books. The Steps to Freedom in Christ would be great it is by Neil T Anderson. BUY IT
2006-06-27 05:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by girly_gurl2215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sexual prefernece is something you cannot change. You were born this way, and you can't just wake up every morning and say, "Today I think I'll like girls or guys." Sweetie there's nothing wrong with the way you feel. You're Bi so what?! Love yourself just be careful sexually. Where's your gay pride? You can't change the way you are, and don't change for anyone. Good luck with all your future endeavors!
2006-06-27 05:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by drea_1078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of questions and unfortunately, you are not getting very good advise here. Feelings are complicated. Sexual attraction is very complicated. Sexuality and Religion do not mix. So, basically, if someone religious is giving you advice about your sexual identity - ignore them. They have an agenda and it isn't to help you understand yourself better.
You might want to look at why you want to change yourself to become more attracted to girls. Is it to fit in? Is it to please your parents? Do you think it is a sin to be gay? Do you think you could never be happy as a gay man?
So, get the facts about what it means to be gay or bisexual. And when I say facts, I mean non-biased facts from books by mental health professionals. Not from so-called religious people looking to "save" you.
There are a ton of resources out there. Do a web search, go to the library, talk to a trusted teacher. But please, be gentle with yourself. Jesus's message is of love not judgement. Jesus loves us all and he especially loves you.
2006-06-27 10:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not change how God made you. You can pretend to be straight, get married, have children and try to suppress those feelings but in the end what you sexually desire will win out. Many lives will be shattered if you take the married/kids route. be yourself and seek out a Gay/Lesbian Christian support group. I am a straight Christian female and truly believe that God accepts us all.
2006-06-27 05:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by It's Keeanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god! These answers are TERRIBLE! Being Bi is not a crime! Being who you are isn't a crime! These are terrible, terrible answers! Someone who could say something like that...I just want t ocry! I'm sorry you have to hear these things from these people..accept yourself and don't let anyone tell you different! You just can't stop being Bi, its part of YOU. I know a TON of christians who are gay! They are accepted...change churches! One that has open doors and hearts, like Methodists or something...just..don't pay attention to these terrible answers. :(
2006-06-27 05:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by dragonsw0rn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you are a christian and struggling with this issue you can receive guidance from the bible, and from "elders" in your church. Bisexuallity is biologically incorrect. God created man and woman. Women were created to be a helpmate for man. If the whole world suddenly became gay or "Bi", eventually creation would cease to exist.
2006-06-27 05:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are completely willing to do whatever it takes to stop being bi, than stpo looking at that gay porn, and try to focus your attention o the girls. in your mind think about all the disadvantages or stuff you don't like about gay ppl and try to use that as a motivation or w/e to try to become straight again. good lucky buddy! [:
2006-06-27 05:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexually, you are what you are. You can't stop being that. The closest you will come is to pretend to yourself that you have changed. If you're strongly motivated, you can probably make yourself believe it most of the time. But deep down you will always know that your inner nature is the same.
2006-06-27 05:28:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋