2006-06-27 04:56:46 · 31 answers · asked by houtxgal2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why aren't you trying to make it better?
2006-06-27 05:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by midnightrose 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NEVER. because you may think you are doing them good by staying in your relationship but you are not because you may try and hide it but kids know when things are wrong, and setting this example, and example of marriage which for you, if it is bad, is giving them a bad look on marriage which can be an amazing thing if you are with the right person.
2006-06-27 05:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are the worst reason to stay in a marriage
2006-06-27 05:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by piaggio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Believe it or not, you are doing more damage to your kids if you stay because the dysfunctionality of the marriage will take a toll on the kids. You will also be miserable. At first it might seem worth it to stay, for the kids, but you are doing damage to them if you stay. You will show them that it's alright to stay in a dysfunctional relationship.
2006-06-27 05:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You can work on the marriage for the kids. But if you know it is over your children will benefit more by seeing you strong and taking good care of yourself than submitting to a bad situation.
2006-06-27 05:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying there for the children is just an excuse. if you feel that your marriage is over then you should get out. if you stay where you are not happy you are going to hurt yourself and your children. if they see you not happy it could be bad for any relationship that they have when they are older. if they see you fight they might think that is how a marriage is suppose to be,and it is not.it is about loving someone so mush you cant even picture your life without them.
2006-06-27 05:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO......I stayed in a bad marriage for ten years....my kids grew up seeing a bad example of what marriage is supposed to be. three years after my divorce I married a wonderful lady...now my kids see us together laughing and loving. Theyve both told me that they hope someday they will find what Ive found. If you are staying in a loveless relationship for your kids you arent doing them any favors
2006-06-27 05:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you girl. I stayed in a bad and argumentative marriage for too long. I remembered the terrified faces of my kids whenever we fight and argued. I realised what we did caused more damaged to the kids than unto us.
I am filing for my divorce and have explained to my kids the reasons to my wanting for this divorce. One of the reasons is that I want to stop hurting them and I want to give more happiness to them. No matter what happened, they will still have their father whenever they want him. I was amazed at their positive response. We now look forward to live as emotionally healthier family without me and my ex being husband and wife.
2006-06-27 05:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by DiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never. It would be better to be single and lonely, than miserable in a marriage. The kids would be happier because they're not exposed to all that fighting. Their father will always be their father, no matter who you're married to, of if you ever get married again. Think things out, be organized, don't do anything out of impulse. Best of luck to you........
2006-06-27 05:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, what kind of example are you showing your kids. That it's okay to be unhappy all the time. My sister has been married for 14 years, however they live in different houses for 4 years now. She doesn't think it's effecting the kids, I think she's showing them it's okay to treat you spouse this way. Good luck
2006-06-27 05:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You already know your answer, you're only trying to get verification. Only you can make that final decision, we can only give opinions. It's not going to be an easy task by no means for a long time. So, make sure you've tried everything possible, counseling, talking, spending quality time to rekindle the romance, etc. This way you won't have any regrets if it spirals downhill.
2006-06-27 05:11:30 · answer #11 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋