Theres this guy that is 4 yearolder than me so im bascically jailbait 4 him if we did anything 2gether......the thing is we both like each other yet his dad says im 2young and my dad says hes 2old....i really like the guy but our dads dont like it....the guy i like is really sweet and unlike my father i know he wouldnt try 2 get down my pants unless i was ready......hes only made a couple of moves and we talk from like 9-10 at night till 4-5 in the morning on the phone and then we c eachother through the day or talk on the phone some more....he said he would wait 4 me to turn 18 so neither one of us could get in trouble but thats 4 years.....should i date him and keep our relationship a seceret or wait till im 18 and there is no more a relationship...im confused help me plzzz!!!!
2006-06-27 04:55:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
hes 18 im 4 years younger and he lives right down the street from me and im not suppose 2 c him but i do anyways
2006-06-27 04:55:59 · update #1
you ARE too young,i like and prepare in love with this girl but she is much younger than me,if only she is 1 year younger and in same grade i will accept that but she is 3 year younger so i give my mind up and get another,but we are still freind,i recomment you to get another 1.good luck:)
2006-06-27 05:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, you're 14. I'm not saying its any more or less real, but your 14. And he's 18. Men have gone to jail for less. For 16 and 18. For 17 and 18. And you're 14. Ninth grade and a Senior. Maybe Eigth grade and a Freshman in college! I've been commited to relationships that aren't and can't take place as well, and I've found its better to let go. There are so may other fish in the sea and you are SO young! And sometimes, dating other guys, not really being with them, just experiencing them, can make you appreciate your guy more. And can make you sure that you love him. Whatever you do, don't have sex with him. You're 14. And so am I.
2006-06-27 16:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by millancad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact same situation my ex is 17 and Im 13. You really have to figure out how much you love/like him and if hes really willing to risk going to jail for 99 yrs. If you think he truly cares for you then dont let what anyone says brake ya'll up. Ive been there I let my friends get in my head and tell me stuff I knew wasnt true. Dont loose a good thing over mess!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-27 12:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by lil momma92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a really tough situation. if u do date him and your dad finds out you could loose his trust for awile and u dont know what the guy would do to you knowing your a minor. but if u dont date him you could loose him because if someone i liked made me wait 4 years to date them i would probably get tired of waiting and move on. if u truly love the guy and you know for shure he loves you and would never try anything on you i would go for it. you could also trying to explain it to your dad about how you are both responsible and he respects you and that you would tell him its over if he trys to "get in your pants". maybe explaining it to your dad will help him understand the situation better.
Good Luck~
2006-06-27 12:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by When Love Goes Wrong.... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till your 18, and in the mean time, get to know him better. spend time with him and continue to talk to him on the phone, but just as friends, untill you turn 18. dont go behind ur parent's backs to have a relationship with him b/c that just complicates things and that's nevr a good situation. if he's willing to wait for you, then wait! ur lucky that he is willing to wait for you.
2006-06-27 12:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. stay away from this situation. ive dated guys that were way older then me as well. its really not a good thing. its normal to be attracted to anyone of any age. but you wouldnt have anything in common if he is 4 years older than you. you dont have to wait til your 18 to be with an older guy, but u shouldnt do it now.
2006-06-27 13:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like him as much as u say u do then u will definently wait b/c if u don't then he will definently end up in jail b/c ur doesn't want u 2 to b together anyway. wait those 4yrs or else u could ruin both of ur lives for ever.
2006-06-28 02:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by A-Town Soulja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live life and if at the time you turn 18 you all end up together then it;ll be time
2006-06-27 12:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
i would date him anyway.
if hes a good guy, who cares about how old he is!
the thing to do is make it seem like it was your dads idea all along... they like to be in control.
2006-06-27 12:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by clevah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'd stay away from this situation if I were you or just wait.
2006-06-27 11:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋