I am a mulim lady was married to a muslim man but he divorced me at his advantage now I am alone in life very upset but now a hindu boy 25 years old is interested in marrying me with a condition that I will convert to his relegion.I am redy but my society is putting pressure not to do so but when I am in trouble no muslim help came to me now when I feel I can be settled they are creating problems. please advice me seriously as its a question of my life.
2006-06-27 04:41:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry about your divorce. You should do what makes you happy & the only person that can really help you is yourself so make decisions based on your future and well-being.
2006-06-27 04:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rehana, I am sorry that your husband and society (and possibly your family, too) has treated you this way.
If your Hindu friend is able to support you and you can be sure that he loves you and doesn't see you as an 'easy catch' because of your destitution, then I would say go to him but explain that converting from one religion to another is not as easy as going from one house to another.
Try to understand that many of the good things, the valuable principles which Islam teach are not so different from the Hindu values. You should also talk to him about the things that you value in life. Slowly you will understand each others' way of thinking and hopefully you will come to understand that each of us worships the same thing in different ways.
I am sorry, but I think that if you convert to Hindu from Islam, your friends and even your family may not understand. That is why you need to be very sure of your man before you go with him.
Blessings and good luck!
2006-06-27 04:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I undrstand how you feel. You have been loyal to your religion, but your religion has not been loyal to you. When you were down, your people pushed you even lower; when you are up, they are pushing you down. It seems that your happiness and well-being are of no concern to your relatives and people linked to you by your religion.
You display to be a good and conscientious woman, not by virtue of being Muslim, but by your innate nature. If you love this new person, then marry him -- it is that simple. As far as converting to another religion, do it if you yourself feel comfortable with doing that, but not if you are getting a lot of pressure by your new fiance. You actually just said that the new guy wants you to convert; you have not once complained about being unhappy with any of his demands. You have, however, complained quite a bit about your Muslim people's demands. I'm pointing this out to you in case you have not noticed it. Now hear the saying: "If it feels good, do it; if it doesn't, stop." If something feels good and makes you happy, you will flourish (and you will also have much to offer to the world); if something consistently hurts you, it is killing your heart and soul (and you will be left with little to offer to the world too). Even a flower grows in the direction of (nourishing) sunlight and beautiful music, but away from horrid noise because it grows the strongest that way. If your relatives make a lot of noise about you converting your religion, be polite, but do nothing less than to stand your ground. If you don't look out for your well-being, you will grow old with anger and hurt and negative feelings. You don't want that, do you? This wonderful new boy/man seems to care about you despite all of the nonsense causing trouble for women like yourself; he is very supportive -- sounds like a nice person to be married to. It is your decision to make, but I understand how you feel. And if you are looking for support here because you do not get any from your own family, then I offer you that support. I don't even know you but I feel what you are going through.
2006-06-27 16:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by ilovela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you should be ashamed of your heritage and culture but the fact that you are says something. I think that just because muslims didnt come to your aid during your divorce, thats no reason to disassociate yourself from them. Christians arent going to come in most instances either. You do however have to find yourself and find out what religion is best for yourself so you should take some time to do that instead of just converting for the sake of marriage.
2006-06-27 04:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Know What I Am Glad You Are Seeking Help Alot of people Just go on there Best Thinking But It Does not hurt to seek help in this World ANYWAY>>> what I would do is to talk to my family members/ PARENTS and just ask them do you thnk this is good because thay can relate to you more than any of us and if you love him and you pryed with GOD and YOU FEEL IT IS RIGHT I wold go a head GOOD LUCK HOPE YOU GOT A ANSWER HAVE A GREAT LIFE
2006-06-27 04:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by albaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear sister Leave the past and believe me god/Allah will not be angry if you marry a Hindu and convert to Hindu.iam telling you god is full of love.Will you kill your child? if he converts? no isn't then why you afraid god will be against.it is not the god the ill conceived people who are against.Think! you cannot be sure of any thing what happens next minute.only youcan hope.
so think "Good" have faith ask the god for direction. i promise he will not let you down.if any thing happens it is his will.one thing is sure do "good" "you will get only good". Think all child will cry when parents give them bitter medicine but it is for their good.
Basically Hindu culture doesn't favor divorce.In fact divorce exists only in legal point.Also Troubles are abound in any marriage.i sincerely pray to the god you succeed in your life.
always think positive be happy.try to become vegetarian it will calm your mind.do meditation.
sincerely
Your Brother with love and blessing.
2006-07-03 05:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by freedom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a decision YOU have to make.
I know married couples with different religions making it and being happy( but in a relatively liberal society). They even make children and agree about their religion. Relatives always disagree...
Anyway if he loves you he should accept you as a whole and not try converting you.
2006-06-27 04:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by abra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never be ashamed for ISLAM, try to go more deep in your religion, you'll find all the answers. Our social life shall never be a priority over our religion. Shape your social life arround your religion. People convert to Islam because they find all the answers, now you want to convert to another religion that you may not believe in , but you're doing it for some guy ! My advice is try to go more deep in your religion .. giving up is never the best solution !
2006-06-28 22:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never change your self for the sake of a man. Not on any terms. Religion or anything. If he can't deal with your beliefs and you don't believe in his... don't get married- ur only gonna cause yourself more grief.
2006-06-27 04:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must know that there is no conversion in hinduism...
if the person wants you to convert and not accept you as you are, then I think its not a good idea to marry him...
and, why should you be ashamed of your religion, Islam is a glorious religion, I am not a muslim, but I know about Islam and it is very great.....
religion is a personal issue...its not a social issue..
why are you expecting people to help you??? religion is religion and god is one as Islam says , so you can pray to any god you want, you dont have to be afraid of society....
you have one life...live it in your own terms..life is very short..
dont let others control your life...
even god cant help those who dont help themselves...so be not afraid of anyone... live life in your own terms....
2006-06-28 06:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by raj_6c1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋