but something about them sparks your interested and you've spent time chatting and e-mailing the person what would the appropriate next step be find out what they look like and what their intentions are?
2006-06-27 04:38:56 · 32 answers · asked by mcfly878 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Maybe you should ask if it is okay to get to know them more by asking some personal questions. What would your intentions be? Do you want to get to know them as a friend, or something more? They may really like you a lot, but also not be able to go any further than friendship. Nothing wrong with being really good friends.
I know one way you may be able to see what they look like! Look at their Yahoo 360 page!!! It may tell you a little about the persons life as well.
2006-06-27 06:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I've recently been in that position with a man i met online living in the same city as me. We exchanged e-mails over some time - getting to know each other and he made the next move by giving me his phone number and saying if i felt comfortable enough maybe i could give him a ring - i cheated and SMSed him and we did that for a bit and he finally called me and chatted several times over the phone and we still clicked and we both wanted to meet and we agreed to meet for coffee somewhere public. I chose the venue somewhere i felt safe and comfortable and i guess the rest is history, we met, still clicked and we're getting to know each other.
It is a risk - i went by instinct and fortunately, my good feelings about him have been confirmed. So i'd say go by instinct but also be realistic - the person on the other end of the computer could well turn out to be a monster so do take precautions. I wouldn't advise for example meeting for the first time at your place or something like that. :) Good luck.
2006-06-27 04:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made friends with a woman in Hawaii about 6 years ago ( completely platonic, I am a woman as well... this isn't a love story) and we have been best friends ever since. I recently got a chance to go meet her and her family a month ago and we hit it off like we had known each other our whole life. I suggest web cams or asking for a phone number at a time when you will be busy and can't get on line. It's harder to maintain a phone conversation than it is on line. Once you've spoken to the person and figure out if this is something you'd like to continue with, just ask to meet them some where public and fun! Anything too deep like coming over to your house might start off the relationship on the wrong foot.
2006-06-27 04:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually in the same kind of position..! I would ask them to see a pic and just continue chatting and emailing, maybe set up a time in the future to meet when you feel pretty confident that they don't have the wrong intentions. I wouldn't rush things, though...I've found the easiest way to see if a person has good intentions is to take the time to actually get to know them! Good luck!
2006-06-27 04:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, why not? Ask tht person on a date or just for a friendly meet up oneday in the city or the food court. There is no harm in that. The only thing stopping this is if that other person might be too shy to meet up and has got something to hide... ! (i'm an old man pretending to be a young woman! nahhh just joking mate haha) So anyway, i say yeah! set a date to meet this person face to face! It would be nice to know that lovely person behind the computer screen.
2006-06-27 04:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask for a photo. I would be very careful though. There are a lot of sicko lunatics out there just waiting to take advantage of young people. If you are a minor, you should confide in an adult that you trust (hopefully, your parents) to make sure you don't get taken advantage of. Most importantly, do not give out any identifying information. Don't show a photo in front of your school or any place that could indicate where you live.
Be careful. Good luck.
2006-06-27 04:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by MJL613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been online for 11 yrs, I have this to suggest and it may even seem a little paranoid, but view them on webcam ( if they dont have one chances are they arent who you think they are ) exchanged pictures via email of each with friends and family... ask for a phone number or offer yours... talk for awhile on the phone and most importanly find out their first middle and last name... check the sex offender registry and the states prison records... Yes it may seem extreme but if this person truly cares about you then they will not mind letting you feel secure. I've dont whit with several people and have found some pretty scarey information on them!
2006-06-27 04:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask if they feel it is appropriate to take your friendship to the next level by either exchanging photographs, or using a webcam to chat live, or whatever you want to do.
Be open and honest about your interests and ask them what they think about the situation.
Just be careful!
2006-06-27 04:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by e_r_c_15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean chatting on the phone? I always feel there's a risk in meeting someone you've met online. Beware.
2006-06-27 04:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should really do is talk to someone else who lives around the person like the their best friend. Or Do a online video chat so you know what they really look like. Pictures today just don't cut it really.
2006-06-27 04:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋