All you people hating and judging on me for my feelings...?

Question

Are making me hate my baby even more because I feel like everyone is againat me (including her) and no one understands my suffering is real, like I just don't matter. Everyone has so much to condemn and criticize me about but wnere are the "answers" and help? She's not the angel you think she is. Are you here? No, you are not.

all my arm..> thanks i feel even more bitter and hateful now. thanks

Answer 1

Why do you insist on getting online and bitching and spewing out all this garbage about how you hate your baby if you don't expect to be condemned for it? I assume you realize you're at a pregnancy and parenting site where all of the women and men here come for advice because they love their babies. You're coming here and saying you hate your baby, your baby hates you, she's evil, etc. What the f*ck do you expect, nimrod...that people are going to congratulate you and tell you it's normal to hate your baby?

Quite honestly, I've seen PLENTY of posts here where people who seem genuinely concerned have answered you in a logical, caring and supportive manner, yet you keep adding comments to your original post, directing messages to individual people who condemn you. Where are the comments to the people who are genuinely trying to give you advice? (i.e. To (insert name): Yes, I realize I might have a problem. Thank you for your words of encouragement) Oh, what's that...? That's right...there ARE no thank-yous to the people who are trying to help you. You have so much pent-up anger in you, I don't think you COULD be nice if you tried.

If you really think you have a problem, why are you even here? I just realized you're this woman/man/bored teenager that I answered yesterday, aren't you? Axelrod or something? Well, if I remember correctly, you said you're seeing a therapist and taking medication. Apparently they aren't working. Did your "doctor" tell you to get online and ***** to people who love their kids about how evil yours is as part of your therapy? If so, time to move on and find a new doctor. What does your spouse say about this? Does she (and I'm still not convinced you're a woman, tampon string or not) realize you're doing this?

I'm sure your baby does cry...ALL babies cry. Some cry more than others. It seems to me that if you have a mental condition...be it post-partum depression, bipolar disorder, etc., you probably DO think she's evil and cries too much. Most people who are thinking clearly realize that this is normal, and don't criticize and speak badly about our babies who are doing something they're SUPPOSED to do. You realize you have a problem...you've admitted it. Your mental and prescription therapy aren't working, obviously.

Please answer me this...What exactly are you trying to accomplish by posting messaged here? Really...what?

Answer 2

Ok. I got pretty much the jest of this from your other questions also.

Right now you are suffering from Post-partum Depression. (PPD)MANY mothers get it. Even if they didn't with their first child. Your 6 month old crying all the time is triggering anxiety and depression. If she is constantly crying. Take her to the doctors. Have them check her ears. Sometimes an inner ear infection can be very painful to a baby (even an adult) and can cause unstoppable crying. Which makes sense right?

I would also recommend seeing a doctor that specializes in PPD.

Your not a bad mother. Some people are just lucky to get little angels. and others have to make their little devils into angels. But you are going to need some help, unfortunalty more help than what Yahoo Answers can give you.

Also take an hour out of the day just for you. Have your hubby or someone you trust to take both of the children. (to a park or somewhere fun for them) and you relax. Draw a nice bubble bath and clear your mind. Don't think about kids or hubby or work. Just you. Play some soft music or sounds like the ocean.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

Okay . Did watch the Omen or something ? No I am just joking! Anyways all babys cry. Yes you are going to get upset . It gets on everyones nerves. They cry so much sometimes that you feel like you are going to pull your hair out. Relax . Your baby is normal. I have heard some people say that they think they dislike their babies. They were just suffering from depression. I take meds for it. I am so much better now. It takes like 3 weeks for your meds to work . Give it some time and you will not feel so bad. The first year is the hardest. I think it gets easier as they get older. But we will see what I say when my 3 year old turns 13 . I might have a differnet comment. LOL ! You can do this just hang in their ! Make sure that the baby is fed and dry . Nothing is hurting the baby and he/she is comfy ! Good Luck !

Answer 4

Let's be real, either you have issues and need medication and should not be left alone with that innocent child OR you are some freak looking for attention. Now in fairness, no matter how colic or bad a child is, it asked not to be here, it IS a blessing, and if she is something you cannot handle do yourself and her a favor and find her a loving home. If you suffer from depression, seek help, it's ok and doesn't make you weak, it makes you smart. If you HATE your baby, let someone LOVE it. Why should she grow up in a disfunctional unloving environment? What did she do to deserve that? Please if you are for real, and you are not making this up just to get people going, get help. Right now the only person who sounds nuts is you. You blame people for flaming you for your comments, don't make such ridiculous ones. If you don't want to hear what people have to say, don't post such stupid questions. Get real life support instead of a computer before you hurt yourself or that baby.

Answer 5

If this is actually becoming a real problem than i think you should see your doc and the baby needs to see a doc,babies cry alot sometimes but she may have some problem that may need addressing,you may also have post partum depression which is very real and can make things hard to deal with.My son had colic and he was very hard to deal with and i felt at my wits end,please just put the baby in her crib and shut the door and walk away when you feel you cant take it,give yourself some time to calm down b4 you return to baby,she may be loud and annoying but she is innocent,you are blessed to have a daughter and i would do anything to have a little girl,please get some help dealing with this problem so you can have a easier life and learn to see the beautifull and joyfull parts your daughter has to offer.

Answer 6

I have seen more than enough advice to help you. The few people who insulted you in the beginning - well, some are gone. Others are now getting very frustrated that their advice is ignored and all you do is focus on the negative.
I've been more than understanding and lending advice. I am now starting to think that you just do not really want help or this is a hoax. Which is it?

Answer 7

I'm not exactly sure what your talking about here, but it sounds like your having some sort of depression goin on here. There's people out there to help even if you don't have any family or friends! don't give up, b/c your baby needs you more than ever, the baby depends on you to survive! You'll see later in life that God will not give you anything you cannot handle!!!! :) God loves you & that precious baby of yours. I have 2 little ones & I know 1st hand how it is to have no one, there for you. I'm doin it! Be strong! I know you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Answer 8

Okay, either you're a raving lunatic or a just a bitter hateful person who is taking out her own childhood on her children. I can't believe that someone as maniacal as you would even be allowed to procreate and have a child. You think breastfeeding is stupid, you think attachment parenting is stupid, you think being a mother is stupid.....NEWS FLASH---YOU ARE STUPID. Either go to the doctor and get some new meds, or quit wasting our time with your nonsensical ravings.

Answer 9

OMG, I think you need some serious professional help. Go see someone and tell them you might have post partum depression. You're not going to find the help you need on Answers. You sound like you're seriously going to lose it pretty soon. Sure, my kids are demanding too, but you just have to learn to deal with it, not say that your kid is possessed by the devil. Go get help. Really.

I did notice though, that you seem to have plenty of time to fart around on here.

Answer 10

I read your other question about your baby crying, and i think that everyone answering IS trying to help you!!! please just take your baby to the doctor, and remember God made doctors, so its ok to seek medical help when a baby doesnt stop crying. I think you are going to get through this and you need real help (medical) not just some answers off the internet. good luck and bless you.