My boyfriend has a son whom he loves dearly, he wants to be a part of his life more than anything, he wants him to be a part of our family ( we have twin sons that are 6 ) The mother let his son come stay with us overnight, let us take him to the circus, parks, what ever... then all of a sudden out of the blue she says that if it wasnt for me ( the girlfriend ) he ( the dad ) wouldnt want anything to do with the son... which is a crock of crap! He has his own bed here, we bought him clothes, carseat, toys, everything he needs, and not only that, his father dotes on him like crazy! There is never a moment he is not being read to, colored with, played with, or just good ole fashioned cuddling... we miss him so much and it kills us all that she uses her son as a way to hurt us, its been 2 months since we last saw him and I am so mad that she would let this little boy come into our lives only to rip him out of it, can you imagine what its doing to him?
2006-06-27 04:34:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is not about you or your boyfriend's son. This is about your boyfriend. I can pretty much guarantee you that he has made it clear that he is going to be with you and she is PISSED OFF!!! It has a little to do with what you do for the son, but it has more to do with what you are getting and have. You have to remember that you have the life she would of had if she wasn't such a b*****. There is no way that anyone can talk to her about this because she is too angry and irrational right now. Basically, you cannot reason with crazy people. However, your boyfriend does have some rights if he is paying child support. She CANNOT keep him from seeing his son if he is paying child support. If he has to take her to court to get visitation, then go to court. If he isn't paying child support, then he's got a problem. Of course you do not want to put the child through custody battle, but it might come down to that if he's not paying. Most importantly, do not give up fighting to see him. Bring in a mediator, go see a priest, hire a witch doctor, whatever, but do not give up on this child. Even if his mother does not see it, I am sure that this little boy felt safe in your home with his two brothers, his father and you. And no matter how this turns out remember that if she continues to do this, that little boy is going to resent and hate her. Every kid needs to know their parents and when he gets a little older and understands what she's done, I pretty sure that he is going to go running to his father and she might be left with nothing. So keep the door unlocked for him.
2006-06-27 04:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I see what you are saying but you have no idea why she is acting that way you do not know what the relationship was like when your boyfriend and his ex girlfriend was together YEAH I know he told you what it was like but come on you really think he really told you his downside but you love him so it's his word over anyone's right now his ex might have had bad experiences when they were together you will never really know even if you think he really told you because guys never never tell all believe me never only what is going to work in their favor not anything that will put doubts in the one that they love mind she might see what she wanted in the relationship he has with you that she didn't get and it hurts her so badly that she's reminded everytime their child comes around and I have seen guys take more interest later in the child before sometimes someone like you comes along very caring and helpful open their eyes to see how to do better sound like you have made a big difference keep being supportive for your man and his child she will bring the child back and don't let her controlling the child strain what you and your guy have together she must move on she has a lot of work on her self sadly it affects the time you guys have with the child but it will get better just relax and you will she will let him come back again as long as she knows you guys are mad she will prolong but if you do not show anger and let it go for now until he have to take her to court if she gets rediculious with it relax!
2006-06-27 04:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She a jealous, hateful.*****!!!! point blank. Serious, I'm going through the same thing. My ex and I have two girls, They can only reach him by calling her cell.Sometimes they don't hear from him for weeks at a time. Then when they see him she didn't even tell him they had been calling. Not only that we all stay 30 - 45 min. away from eachother and he won't even come see them,when he does he has a time limit. I feel your pain,maybe in a different way,but, i do. Tell him to get a court order.The nasty heffa won't have a choice then.She'll reap her choices in the long run.TRUST THAT!!!
2006-06-27 04:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by hermese b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the mom has issues and the son is a pawn in her game i had to be that mom once but the dad was nothing like that when he had my daughter he treated her as a burden and she came home in tears all the time because daddy didn't love her like he did his new wife and kid
2006-06-27 04:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to court. As long as your boyfriend has a job and doesn't do drugs then he will get partial custody. That way there will be set days and there's nothing this woman can do about it.
2006-06-27 04:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by Blue_eyed_mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's a HATER
I'M in the same position. the other BABY'S MAMA doesn't like that i do for my kids because she doesn't do ANYTHING for hers.
i just remain HUMBLE, be courteous and respectful and keep doing for mine. You can't change someone who doesn;'t want to change...i'ts not about me -- it's about the children
2006-06-27 04:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are stupid and if they can't be in control of something then they can't stand it. Just give it time, she'll come around.
2006-06-27 04:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋