Can you ban someone for just caring and observing to see if they receive the best of care in a nursing home?

Question

I was banned from seeing the father of my son who has been a large part of my life for 26 yrs. Banned by the Professional Guardian court appointed a few months ago. My ex sustained severe brain injury to due to a fall from over consumption of alcohol that day. I was always by his side being his eyes, ears, and foot work. Really like his advocate, no one else stepped up to the plate to assist me for almost a year. The guardian takes over has him relocated. Our son and I were there for the transport stayed with him notice he was not fed or changed the whole entire day. The Depends he had on was dry all day into the evening. I emailed the guardian and she then decided to ban me from seeing Mike, my ex. Can this happen I have no money to hire an attorney, I am on SSD. I thought you can only be banned if you harm, abuse and interfere in the care of the patient. I believe the guardian is playing on my ignorance. It is hurting me not to see him and it has been 5 mo. since the ban was placed

Cantcu?
I just tried to email you back on your response and it did not go through. I just want to let you know you are correct I did submit a simuliar ? a little while ago but I did not ask it correctly because the replies did not fit the question. I only recieved #4 replies and the only one that came close was the 4th reply. I am not fabricating any thing here this is real and I am going through this. But I can appriciate where you are coming from since you do not know me. Thank for your reply and I will take what you shared into consideration.
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My ex-husband, Marine served two tours in Vietnam, infact he really never came home. If you understand what I mean.
Bless you .........Kalliope from Florida

Answer 1

Hi, I keep a low profile when visiting my Alzheimer's Patients husband. He is in a care facility. It sounds to me that in your caring so much about your sons father, perhaps you have reacted to the lack of proper care he is receiving.

The law is on your side. He needs an advocate from the system to monitor his care. You pissed somebody off.

You might suggest that the authorities check on him in the middle of the night. They will look in his mouth with a flashlight, to see if his teeth are being brushed. Also, he should be re-positioned in his bed, and his depends checked, every two hours minimum.

If you just back off, and it sounds like you have, they will drop their guard, and then someone can nail them. Your son has rights to see his father, and unfortunately you might have to play hardball another way. Someone in this format must have the particulars on what you can do. This can effect your well-being, esp. if you are on SSD.

Sounds like he was dehydrated, I assume that is what you meant, when you said his Depends were dry for a long period of time. I think you just need to Zip your Lip, and hunker down, and get the proper Authorities on your side. The system is corrupt. During my training for Alzheimers, I fought for the rights of the Patients, along with another C.N.A, and a Nurse.

Many issues were never resolved. At that time, I was encouraging relatives of the Patients, to visit at unusual times to view the subtle abuses

Unfortunately, the abusers already had an anchor in the Facility, and it was impossible for us to make any changes. It went to the top. I finished my Certifications and left the facility, as did my co-workers who really cared.

Sounds like you need to step back, send in a spy with a camera, and a time stamp on it. I used to see people in another section, sitting in their wheel chairs, waiting three to four hours, to be taken to bed. No hygeine, just flopped in bed. The way they landed, was the way they were all night. I would walk down the hallway, and try to make them comfortable.

Also I had three old Vets with Hep. C. I was reported to the upper staff, for wearing Nitrile gloves to hand feed bread, etc.,to keep from transferring from one patient to another.The Facility had no Universal Precautions in place. (how to handle blood etc.) I know exactly what you are talking about with his care.

We had a little **** of a Gestapo, mean, mean mean. I told her, that for every mean thing she said to a patient, that I would be right behind her, saying something nice. I went nose to nose with her on many occasion.

It is true that Caregivers are over worked and under paid, but when on burn out, guess who suffers.

Well, I hope you can work your way back to what you had with your son and his father. He still needs you. You will find a way.

Don't talk to his Guardian at this time. It is just ammunition for her.
Can you send him a bouquet of flowers, say from neighbors gardens for him through a friend?

He will have a Caregiver that will tell him it is from you. There is always the good and the evil. The good will win over.




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Answer 2

This is the second time you asked this question!

If this is a real question either there is a lot more to the story or a fabrication, which I hate wasting my time on.

A Gal can't ban you without a court order from seeing him unless you are abusive, intoxicated or some other thing they can say you did, but that is only at that time, unless it is constant.

You aren't married to him are are you? If you aren't related that nay change the circumstances. Your son can see him, but I think she can ban non family members but I don't know why she would not want him to have visitors!

Answer 3

I am sorry to say that, with a court ordered guardian, they have the right. You would have to appeal in court.
I am sorry you are hurting...

Answer 4

can you just take him out of that home and put him in another one?