He wants to get married, but I don't think I want him controling my life.
2006-06-27 03:08:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am very independent girl & have always stayed clear of the clingy-type relationship. He wasn't like this when we first got together & at first I thought it was cute but now it just seems a bit insane. He won't work & if he is offered a job, it has to jive with my work schedule. I usually spend Sunday's with the fam, doing my laundry at my mom's house, playing with my neice & nephew, getting away from him for a while. But now, he acts like he should be invited to go & calls me at least twice while I'm there. If he doesn't call, he has his mom call with some made up excuse. This has become such a co-dependent relationship & I don't know how to walk away without feeling like the "BAD GUY". I don't want to be the reason he crawls into bed & whithers away to nothing but I can't keep lying to him & pretending that I would really rather be somewhere else.
2006-06-27 04:14:11 · update #1
Control issues do not get better once the "I Do's" are said. In fact it gets much worse. If you don't like it now, why stay with a man like that? Men that feel the need to control women are very insecure. I think you should move on and try to rekindle your lost friendships and in the future when a friend are family member tells you they don't like your bf, instead of getting mad try to step back and view your relationship from the eyes. Family and true friends love and want the best for you. I doubt this is the first bf you have had that has controlling issues. Do a little soul searching and find your inner strength and self worth and hopefully you'll stop choosing this type of man. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-27 03:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by badoll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're even questioning it should tell you something. You are a human being with your own life...he has no right to control you. Your friends are important. A man who runs them off or won't let you be friends with them is worthless. He should want you to have friends. He should want you to have your own life. If he's trying to control you now, it will get worse if you're married. You don't need him. You deserve much better than him. You may love him, but you can love someone who truly loves you in return. If he really loved you, he wouldn't want to control you. He would love you for who you are and give you your space. And my guess is that he really only wants to marry you to have even more control over your life. It's ridiculous. Get rid of him. Take it from someone who knows....I've been in relationships like that, and now I'm in a good one...it's so much better. I don't feel guilty for every little thing I do, and I know that my fiance loves me no matter what I do. He lets me have my own life and I love it. I hope you find someone better.
2006-06-27 03:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by *~*~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is like this now, he is only going to get worse if you marry him.
Stop and think real carefully about what you are getting in to and if this is how you want to live. He is already controlling you, and you are letting him.
Try to figure out why you are lettin ghim do this to you.
Then decide what you want to do about it.
Blessings!
2006-07-05 18:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously consider loosing the boy friend. Its not worth the drama.
2006-06-27 03:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, a very serious talk of course cos its not nice to lose all ur friends becos of him when he can dump u one day whiles ur friends will be there for u.
2006-06-27 03:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋