Should someone who betrayed you once be ever trusted again?

Question

My best friend, who happens to be my brother's fiance, broke a promise she made to me. I told her something in confidence about her future parents-in-law, my parents, but she blurted out some things that were better left unsaid. I realize now I should have never revealed some things to her. As a result, she told my brother, he got upset and she called off the wedding. My brother says he doesn't like when she and I talk because he doesn't like other people knowing his business and she tends to tell me everything. Should I try and call her to ask why she betrayed me like that? My parents say its best to never talk to her again because obviously she can't be trusted. What do you think?

Answer 1

Everybody deserve a second chance.... ♥♥♥

Answer 2

Everyone needs to be given a second chance after all people are still talking to you after giving out the so called family secrets! Up to you but if this person is still in your family then you need to develop some form of respectful relationship if only to keep your family happy. always keep in mind that regardless of how much you trust someone there is always a chance of info told being leaked so if you really dont want such info to get out and about the rule is simple shut your mouth.

Answer 3

A womans best friend should NEVER be her boyfriend/fiance sister. Too much drama, and too many secrets that could ruin things for the couple. Maybe your brother had planned on telling his future wife the things you spouted off to her. And how badly do you dislike your own parents to spew venom about them to her to begin with. I think it may be YOU that can't be trusted, as you hung your own family out to dry.

Answer 4

My frame of thinking is the same way!! I say he needs to help you get over this; what if he stepped it up on being a husband and shows you that he’s committed to only you!!! Then perhaps those ugly thoughts would go away. When is the last time he sent you flowers or did something extra special for you when you never expected it? Why did he enter in that “emotional” affair anyhow? What was his excuse? When did he have the time to do that?

Answer 5

I would talk to her if it bothers you but leave it at that she mostly likley is feely pretty crappy right now so I wouldn't rub salt in the wounds maybe give her a little time and then talk to her about it and since she is your best friend don't leave her in the cold like the rest of the family has cause friends don't do that and two wrongs don't make a right

Answer 6

You don't have to never talk to her again. I think you have to accept that your relationship with your friend will have to change. Even if you decide to forgive her, will you ever truly forgive her or will it always be at the back of your mind when you speak with her? You should remain friendly but accept that rather than best friends you'll just be 'mates'. Hope this helps a bit.

Answer 7

i wouldnt call her let sleeping dogs lie. if what happened was enough to make your brother call off the wedding then i would just leave it alone. sorry you had to find out the hard way that she couldnt be trusted...

Answer 8

She should be the one calling you-groveling. There isn't much worse than a big mouth who can't keep important information to themselves, especially when promised to do so

Answer 9

why dont you make a large poster with everything you have been told and shove it up on the top floor of the highest building and then something else and more than that you could do something else as well

Answer 10

first of all she was your brother's fiance. so you should have left introduction to your family upto your brother.
I agree with your parents...if she can betray once she can do it twice, thrice and so on