He was 29, I was 16. My mom found out and turned him in. It has been 15 yrs. and when I see him in public he looks like he wants to talk to me or he would like to run for his life. I am not sure which. I wrote him a letter apologizing for any grief that I have caused him in his life. I sent it via his brother, he is married now and I do not want to cause problems there. I left no return address or phone number. I am not looking to speak to him, I just needed some closure.
2006-06-27 01:48:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I understand exactly what you are saying he was 29 and you were 16 believe me he understand very well why things happen the way they happen even if he did not know your age he know that teens can sometime lie so you are really in the clear I think he feels kind of bad because he knew better to deal with a 16 year old if anything he needs closure the way you say he acting but truth is he is married his life has moved on and you should to because he was too old at the time and he understand very well I think he probably wants to apoligize to you his conscience is bothering him you owe him nothing so rest assured you are fine you are ok you were 16 you did what a 16 year old would do at that time being 16 you are now 31 let it go it's been 15 years live your life
2006-06-27 02:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may still carry a torch for you, but this was a long time ago, he has managed to pick up some of the pieces of his life. I understand you would like some closure, believe me. You need to back off. If he responds to the letter Via his brother. you will know. but best thing to do is let him get on with his life, and do what you need to to move on with yours. You are neither helping him nor yourself by pursuing this.
2006-06-27 08:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by lovpayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you ask this the other day?
He is a person guilty of STATUTORY RAPE. A serious crime especially when it is between two that are 29 and 16.
It would be totally different if he was 18 and you were 17
But this guy was out for the hunt and you were the vicitm.
2006-06-27 10:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was 29? Now that you are 31, would you consider dating a teenager? Maybe he feels guilty, because dating a 16 year old when you are 29 is not cool at all. Has he ever been on Dateline?
2006-06-27 08:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to cause problems then don't interfere in his life. He's moved on, you should too. It might seem like he wants to talk to you but seriously if he did I think he would have by now, I mean come on you guys are matured adults now. Let it go. Its happened and its in the past. Stop raking over it, you're just creating unneccessary baggage and so called unfinished business.
2006-06-27 08:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to write without the chance to reply. Now he really might have a problem and sleepless nights.
Why don't you give his brother your contact data so he can decide if he wants to talk or not. Talking probably would be the best solution to get the things straight.
2006-06-27 08:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by swissnick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he probably feels the same way about you but he doesn't want to go back to that place. He has a wife now so its better if you stay away. There's someone out there for you too. Just focus on your life and don't worry about his he's made his own decisions.
2006-06-27 11:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so maybe this love story affected you both but as he was older he made up his mind and move along and while you were younger it maybe somehow affected you more and this is why you did this closure as a tangible proof to yourself
and if he want to contact you maybe he will by the same means you contact him
i hope you'll be happy however in you life now
2006-06-27 08:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by aenasc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there girl! yeah, must be a weird and hard situation... I think it's good that you wrote him a letter...but just remember not to try to bring it up all the time. If ya see him, ask him just normal everyday questions like how he's doing...etc. if he wants to talk....he will. Hope everything works out! =)
2006-06-27 08:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Emily H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing with sending that letter. I think you should leave it now, that letter was enough closure for something that happened so long ago. Consentrate on yuor future now, not your past.
2006-06-27 08:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by prettygreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋