I have noticed that my friend never help when i'm in a problem?

Question

Or when i'm depressed. I always help her sincerely. I do everyhing I can for her. I pamper her a lot. I sms or phone her nearly everyday but she never calls me on her own. When she tells me about her problems i'm all ears. But when I talk to her she pretends to listen and would say that "I do not what to tell you,I'm sorry". I'm fed up now. Also she talks a lot behind my back and even leaks out my secrets when she talks to her other friends.All these are making me sick and I cry nearly everyday. More than 3 times per day. One day she told best friends don't exist? What should I do? I've stopped to call her since the past few days. Is that true best friends don't exist. I considered her to be my best friend.

Answer 1

She is either not a very good friend or is taking you forgranted. I know it would be tough to address something like this with people you like as leaving it means you just carry on the way you are but if it bothers you then you have to.

Answer 2

i used to b the very same as u -the bypass to female if u favor to get a secret or difficulty off ur decrease back and dont favor anybody else understanding. i usually felt an same as u - type of invisible, like each they said at the same time as they wer with me turned right into a rock, someone to artwork through their problems with and at the same time as i began to have some depressing relations themes they didnt note. i ultimately startd making a huge attempt to lead the conversations faraway from complications etc and besides the undeniable fact that i made them sense extra self wide wakeful etc they began paying extra interest to me and noticing at the same time as something become off. i later informed them that i'm continually chuffed to assist them yet now and again its too a lot and they were extremely understanding and sort. i even were given some new acquaintances and the former ones stopd taking me for grantd. now wer all chuffed! :) idk if that's any help to u yet good success!

Answer 3

She not a friend in real terms. she is a very self centred person who does not deserve such a caring freindship. However, do be careful as such friendships can become smothering and it is also healthy to have a number of friends in your life. try not to be so co dependant upon her, meet other people and discover what true friendship is all about.

Answer 4

dear, reason for your problem might be
1. sometime we become trouble to them
2. they take us for grant because they know what ever is done we will forgive & forget, and will help
3. they get a friend whom they think better
4. they get a feoncay who may band friendships which are stronger than love sometimes( because they are afraid)
5. pammpering make them feel that we will control them so they try to wthdraw

what to do. try this step by step.
1. reduce the number of contacts,.
less calls, less sms,
Example: if u sms 3times per day then make it one per day do this per week. then every other day in next week. as sush make it to One call per month.
Yet when she is in issue help her at your best.
And dont share your problems with her, because when you try to share you get more upset so Best thin is when u dont say its better than telling and sufering.

Time will help you to deal with pain.
if can please find Below named book its great and will help u in this problem and in your other problems
"WHY WORRY? How to Live Without FEAR & WORRY"
Book by: Dr. K. Sri Dhammananda

All the best for you keep cool. and dont try to find new friends Let friends come to you

Answer 5

As hard as it may be, I think it's time to cut her loose. It seems to be a very one sided friendship. You need to give and RECEIVE. Plus, TRUE friends don't talk behind your back, and make you cry and feel sick.

Answer 6

I had a friend (she was my best friend too) who was just like that. I stopped calling her and realise that best friend DO exsist but it will take some time to find her. Anything else I can help you with write me
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Answer 7

she is not a good friend thats why she told u bestfriends do not exist becos she cant be there for u, listen she doesnt deserve u cos u r a good person, its good u have stopped calling her, if she doesnt call u ever, means she never loved u as a friend so just let her go, good luck.

Answer 8

she is not at all worthy as a freind
,u should leave her.u r very good freind n u deserve a better than her, best friend do exist.i have , n friendship should be maitain from both sides it should not be like one side love.
n stop crying for her she is NOT worthy for ur crying.cry for the person who care for u.
n remember one thing
HATING HUNDRED PERSONS MAY NOT EVEN TOUCH UR HEART BUT LOVING ONE WRONG PERSON WILL LEAVE U BROKEN HEARTED THROUGHOUT UR LIFE

Answer 9

how dare she to say that
best friends never exist
let me tell you she is using you to solve her problems
she don't deserve to be friend of anyone
you are doing right but it is so hard to you i can understand what one can feel when his best friend is not with him
i also help everyone weather he is my friend or not even i help my enemy when he is in need that's why most of my pasts enemies are my presents friends.
do you know my best friend never do a single task without telling me i am always in his decisions.
believe me best friend exist it is true as my friendship with my friend
do you want to be my friend??????
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Answer 10

no i think this is the related topic to self confidence
and take he as a normal friend don't try to go close her
try to make ur b friend some other any time who ingnore by you
see there is a truth of life
we make them cry who care for us
we cry for them who never care for use
we care of those wo never cry for us
so
its on you and i believe you know that to do
if you like my sugg. then plz mail me at [e-mail] as we get friends
or best friend
bye