Why do couples change with each other after Marriage ?

Answer 1

Less of a challenge, routines, life in general and outside influences.

Answer 2

It isn't "marriage" that necessarily changes people/couples - Life changes people, as it is supposed to. Marriage just happens to be a part of a large majority of lives. It is a circumstance of life - a huge one, to be sure, but a circumstance just the same. I think that some people wonder why their mate "changed" -- or even why they, themself, "changed" after marriage because they didn't really understand themselves or what they were getting into.

After all, you are "changed" by each year you live, each grade you go through in school, each relationship you have (and that includes the whole scope: friends, lovers, family, etc.), each book you read, each experience you have......all of this goes into who you are. Marriage is no different.

If a person doesn't really know themself - doesn't have a firm grip on who and what they are, what they stand for, what they believe in, .....if they look to the other person in a relationship/marriage to "complete" them, then they are going to find themself - and their partner - adrift. Marriage really doesn't consist of two people looking at each other - it really is, to be pithy, two people looking ahead in the same direction.

I think the enormous pressures of being married - pressures which include compassion, compromise, communication, caring, kindness, understanding, respect, dignity, perseverance --- to say nothing of children, finances, and time ---- are hard enough to deal with when two people are well-established within themselves. When they are not so well-formed and mature, then these pressures can rip open those parts of a person which are not so strong. Hence, the perception that "s/he changed." But they really haven't - they are who they were all along - just revealed.

Makes a good case for pre-marital counseling, don't you think ? As opposed to simply "we LOVE each other - that should be enough."

Answer 3

People evolve and change through their lives. Getting married is one such step. Being married is a process of evolving as a result of incentive and pressures that life brings. Consider a married couple’s desire to purchase a house. The working to acquire the funds necessary to make such a purchase, deciding on what they want as a house and altering that within the context of what they can purchase, actually making the purchase, moving in and making changes to the house, furnishing the house. This is one of the simple elements of being married and this on going process will change anyone.

Think of all the other things that go on while be married. Children change everything. Work changes things. Simply maturing as an individual changes things. All of this and far more change individuals.

It shouldn’t be surprising that people change, it is how they change and do that change together as a couple which is must significant.

Answer 4

I didn't change, but I think if people do change after marriage it's because they are more comfortable with each other! And they no longer have the fear of losing the one they love so they are able to be more positive in there relationship!

Answer 5

They are just growing up together. The changes are natural in fact. But people are hard to accept that they are getting older. Women will turn from hot and horny to cold ice. Men will keep going with regular sex appeal. Some are turning to have fantasy with the same sex. This natural unbalance will cause conflicts. As we all know that the best cure is not to make it even, but to accept the changes. The family with kids will easier recognize the changes. All in all, it's nothing to do with the marriage at all.

Answer 6

I don't think it's really the marriage that changes them. Even when you are in a relationship, people are not the same years later as when you met them. Everyone changes as time progresses. Just sometimes it is for the worse, not the better.

Answer 7

Because they get comfortable and know they don't have to so called try to "impress" each other any more so they let it all hang out lol. But these changes happen with both people involved and you still have to love and accept each other no matter what!

Answer 8

some people change all the time, continuously, some people almost never change, some people have events or situations happen to them that change them forever. Change is natural, but some people allow marriage to become a handy excuse.

Answer 9

They think they're suppose to change when they're in a marriage now so they won't be as playful as they was when they're married, and they have more stress now after marriage about job,kids...etc

Answer 10

that only happens if the spark of love dies away.. hence, marriage couples should continue to remain the way they were while starting out.. like drives, dinners, movies, mushy talks etc.. moreover, once married, the expectations become more needed thn wanted.. and when both parties fall short of it.. prob arises..