help me make up my mind!!?

Question

i want to know - can i be wrong??

i met my bf 4 1/2 years ago. instantly knew "he was the one". before even knowing him. seemed i knew him for a long time. everything was so clear. 5 minutes after meeting him, i had the feeling this would be the man i would know until the end of my life. and that "this was it". that "it (let's say the search) was finished". we started dating and after 3 month became a couple. this is 4 years ago now.

now my problem. i have mistakes, he does have. easy. our comunication is great. i love him. but sometimes it feels like loving a best friend and kind of a brother!! yet i'm jealous. and can't imagine letting him go. but... the sexual attraction was never main part of this relationship. seemed first like HE was not interested and unsecure (though 25 years old then). i thought it was strange. now we do have a love life. but it is not satisfying at all. is it because of his insecurity? we become more confident with love life together but still...

i need a real man at my side - not a boy who i feel like looking after. i want to be looked after & cared for. He does love me and ist he best boyfriend he can be!!! but i'm not sure if i'm with the wrong man. He feels great as a life-long partner, but as a man..?? i simply don't know.

Ist his normal? Ist his a choice you know?? What do i think about myself for longing for a stronger man :( ??

this is weird, because i'm happy, i feel save. but i long for a stronger man. a man i can blindly trust and who takes me at the hand and leads me… i miss it so much sometimes. and some-times i just forget about it and i'm happy with my boyfriend. BUT THERE ALWAYS WILL BE THIS FEELING .. IS THIS REALLY THE ONE? IS THIS IT?
but because of my initial feeling "this is him!" i'm afraid to let go. to ever lose him. and yes - i do love him, but simply miss some little important things like physical attraction - it feels like he doesn't know how to handle me - how to touch me. it comes not in the

in the right way. (it's just the way he is, he touches me..) IS THIS NORMAL?

Answer 1

Sweetie, you have much more in hand than you dreamt of.
To be frank, yes hes the one you should love. Sarcastically speaking is he trying to be a child to attract more of your attention?
When boy grow they become older boys, but he becomes a man when he meets a real woman. Are you changed? have you asked the same to yourself? try asking it, remember relationships are like mirrors which show our reflection of ourselves. You try not to care about him and he will become more agressive the way you want it may be but be sure he does not take himself to depression.
Man always remembers a man atleast for his woman.

Answer 2

This is normal. Don't think that it isn't right to feel this way. You long for the type of man you want. The choice you have to make is, are you willing to sacrifice what you have for what you want and feel like you need?

Answer 3

This sounds sort of familiar!.. Oh yes my fiance lol. You sound like you have a wonderful man on your hands but men are like children they need to be taught. and like all men yours is not realizing that he is not pleasing you. Just tell him, I like this and like that, i dont like thisand that, but be gentle about it you don't wanna heart that "male ego" of his ;) If you cant bring yourself to telling him upfront try it my way. teach him without him knowing. guild him though it by moving him and his limbs where u want them don't be shy to take charge and get what you want outta it. and later to get him to repeat what you liked tell him after we need to do that more often you were fantastic Works like a charm :D

Answer 4

You need to take time and show him what feels nice, but in a gentle way. Tell him when not in bed that such and such feels really nice, or I love it when you do that.

Answer 5

ummmm..... just talk about it