Before i married my husband i met this wonderful guy and i knew i liked him then, and he liked me too, i just didnt gave him the chance for us to be go out. After 12 years i met this same guy again, and the feeling is still mutual and much intense. In fact we have this magic, it's not just lust, i know it's love because we have proven that. My husband is in another country and had affair an with someone else there, but when i found out about that, i didn't got hurt. I AM holding on to my marriage bcoz of my kids, the guy also loves my kids but i don't want my kids to get confuse. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-06-26 22:39:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a divorce before going any further
2006-06-26 23:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by JULIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the biggest reason why I believe it's better to clean slates instead of toss them out before you get married or make a commitment such as marriage or starting a family. You never know when that slate will resurface. It usually does at the most inconvenient and trying of times. That slate reminds you that there will be no forward progress unless you address it. But Uncle Groovy believes that there is a reason for everything and this is no different. It is another test you must pass before your relationship with the partner you chose crosses onto a higher plane. It is the test you must pass that will show just how much do you value all that you've built and all that you have. Good Luck.
I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.
2006-06-27 06:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid you are biased. Even from the way you described the other man (wonderful) even now, one is convinced that you have already taken a decision. However, your family is more important than anything else. The fact that you have an unsubstantiated report about your husband womanizing is not enough to break your marriage vow. Devil is out to ruin your family and your children's future. Think.
2006-06-27 05:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold on for the kids if you are unhappy one of you will gt hurt I think you need to sit him down and tell him how you really feel and that the reason you weren't hurt over his cheating is b/c you don't love him anymore and let him know you want to seperate in the friendliest way possible for the sake of the kids. Don't deny yourself true love let it go!
2006-06-27 05:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all think what u want to do,divorce or keep yr marriage...if first one then ok u can start seeing the one who you love ...But if u wanna keep yr marriage then dont mix in yr children heads,cos they shud know who is there dady..good luck with anything u decide!
2006-06-27 05:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u answered my q fairly and i appreciate that i think u should go 4 it life it 2 short thats what i think if u love him then every thing will b ok im so in love it hurts man!!! if u stay in a unhappy marrage then r the kids really benefiting (i dont think so) if your happy im sure they will b 2 thats wot im thinking like good luck and follow your heart thats wot im gonna do xxx
2006-06-27 07:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by nicola j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋