My best friend is always away if there is a test or something on. Her mum is way too protective. Today her mum said she was sick so she had to leave school early. Unfortunatley she was in a group that had to produce a speech, so she let the whole team down by not being there (I am not in her class or group)!!!
I need to tell her to stop being away but I don't want to change our friendship (No-one else will tell her and they say they don't like her behind her back)!!!
2006-06-26 22:15:44 · 11 answers · asked by Tori_08 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To be open and give her your advise is better way.
You can make her understand that she made other people upset with her attitude this long. and what has she done can put her in trouble someday and maybe will make her friends stay back from her soon or latter.
Try to open her mind about this, choose a sweet way and polite words to avoid irritating her.
If you do this way, means that you have change your friendship...to a better and quality one!!! coz this whats friends are for....
Good Luck.
2006-06-26 22:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if no one tells her, when she grows up and needs to stand on her own two feet she won't be able to because Mommy wouldn't let her. Sad but true.
Don't tell your friend that though because it doesn't sound like she'll be able to handle it. Instead, think of some group presentation that she was involved in and compliment her on it. Just bring it up in casual conversation.
If she's never been involved in any public/group presentations, ask her to help you rehearse yours.
If while doing either of these things she brings up how much she hates to do public presentations, say something like, "You talk to these people everyday. There's no difference."
School can be rough and public speaking can be even rougher, I know, but with a little practice she'll see it's no big deal.
2006-06-26 22:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by this_isridiculous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her mom's ok then i dont know why you have rob wid her taking leave? as for her class group, here's a trick all the group members should tell the teacher the problem they face wid this grl n so ask not to put her in their group (or remove her) when every one in the class will start treating her like that she'd automatically learn how to work in a group.
also if u guys dont want to involve the teacher. then next time she is their with u talk about all the fun things u did while she was gone! she bound to see what she mised! wud her self stop being absent.
2006-06-27 00:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by nissyfru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being a true friend means telling them what they might not want to hear and risk losing their friendship. I understand your fears, when I was 16 I stood in front of all my birthday party guests and told them a secret about myself. I lost a good friend over it, but looking back 5 years later I've never regretted doing it.
Tell her that you wish to talk to her... keep your voice non-accusing, but explain to her frankly that by her actions she's not only hurt herself but others who were depending on her. All you can do is make it clear to her what she is doing is wrong. You can't "make her stop". She will only stop when she chooses to... but not speaking about her actions and letting her get away with it certainly is not helping her.. Be a true friend and let her know the truth... I know it's hard... You will be in my thoughts...
2006-06-26 22:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my best friend is something like that. He used to let people down with his behavior and everybody said thing behind his back.
Until we had a long talk.
I think you should talk to her, tell her what is going on and how you feel about it. If she trust you she will understand.
If not don't give up on her. Try to make her better.
2006-06-26 22:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Arte Pinokio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her yourself. If you guys are best friends then she shouldnt take it as a bad thing. She needs to learn to stay on task and if your not prepared that you have to deal with the consequences. Lifes not going to wait around for you
2006-06-26 22:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by muzic_master8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what is going on and that you are concerned for her. Brake it to her softly that school is important and that she will need to have a high school diploma in order to get a job later on in life and even offer to be study Buddy's.
2006-06-26 22:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's really your friend you'll tell her what's up. If she's a dirtbag (and she sounds like she is) she needs someone to set her straight. She'll probably take it more seriously if it comes from you.
2006-06-26 22:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by hiclaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're going to have to just tell her. so long as you use a little tact at least, she'll understand.
2006-06-26 22:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u've got to tell her but in a nice way so she doesnt get pissed.
2006-06-27 01:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋