have you ever been attracted to a very ugly girl for her personality?

Question

i am not ugly....but i know a friend who is caring for her self inorder not to appear so..really she is a very kind one..but she still feels she's ugly because guys aren't attracted to her..is it her fault of others fault..

Answer 1

it depends...

let me tell you something.. a girl whom thinks she is ugly, most men will see her ugly.. and a girl who thinks she is pretty and accept her self as a girl, most men will like her..

if both share the same education level- set of social values - income level - taste of things - interests... i mean that girls character contributes alot to her beauty..

also what is more important than looking is the feminine spirit she has.. a man like a girl that he feels his manhood with.. it doesn't necessary to be beautiful.. but soft looking and caring attitude would grab his heart..

in other words when a man think that this girl is not pretty, it means that she is not his personality type.. because a man can handle being married to a girl he likes to talk with than a pretty girl he cant handle a conversation with her.. it hints that there is no shared map of interests between them both..

also keep in mind that men don't share the same sexual interests, so a pretty girl to me may be un-liked girl to someone else..

sometimes ppl get confused between love and respect.. there is big difference between respect and love.. where you desire this person with heart, mind, and body.. you just have to ask God for the good and trust him..

Answer 2

Yeah, I have a friend that is not necessarily ... well ...
she's not pretty...I find her attractive because she's always so positive...so upbeat....and she's really smart.

She has yet to find a guy ... men just don't seem attracted to her.
We hang out about once a week and I always figure if a man just got to know her like I do...he could certainly find her interesting enough to go out with...

I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder...no fault to lay blame on. Eventually our friends will find the right mate..

Answer 3

Okay, we need a guy's answer here. A relationship is 50% primal need and 50% emotion (basically). But the needs for primal and emotional shift for every guy. Presentation and first impression is everything when meeting a guy. If you want the guy with a physical side then change the way you carry yourself in public, in simple terms, be confident and assertive and don't be afraid to show your flirtatious side. But if you want the kind guy, then be open minded and accept to ideas concerning hobbies, art, painting, literature. Using these two sides you can either find the guy you want or shift his personality to a degree. Hope I helped

Answer 4

To quote "American Psycho", by Brett Easton Ellis:

Bateman: "Let's say she has a good personality....."
All laugh, and say in unison
"There is NO such thing as a good personality!" Slap each other high fives
Van Patten "A good personality consists of a little hardbody who is willing to satisfy every sexual desire without being too slutty about it, and essentially keeps her dumb fuc*ing mouth shut"
McDermot "Any chick who is funny or smart or talented whatever the fuc* that means, is just trying to make up for how fuc*ing unattractive they are"

So you see the problem is men........ not being tolerant......... or something....... whatever, I don't care. No matter how ugly a girl's faceis, I guarantee she can get a guy if she's skinny, because about 90% of the time a girl is considered ugly, she's fat. Sad but true.

Answer 5

I have a friend (she still is a friend) to whom i said, walking away, "beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes all the way to the bone" To look at her is easy, but to put up with her ways used to be nearly impossible. No matter who you are, you should take care to present yourself as well as you can with what you have.. Never secumb to that demon "low self esteem", never secumb to pride either. Just be you-- that will shine through like a beautiful soft red dawn,after a dark stormy night.

Answer 6

I have been attracted to such homely people on many occasions. I have this grace to see beyond my nose. Most times, people like that are the most endowed in terms of knowledge, but the devil robbing them is that of low esteem. Any one in that situation should explore other areas where she is good e.g. sports, music, academics and use such as a springboard. A man once played for my national team who would not appeal to any lady ordinarily. He ended up marrying a beautiful woman and they lived together until ....

Advise your friend to search herself and use what she has to get what she wants.

Answer 7

She should hold her head up. Someone will recognize her value.

I've never met an ugly woman, but I have been attracted to women who are not considered beauties. Sometimes for their personality, sometimes for a quality we can only call animal magnetism.

Answer 8

beauty is in the eye of the beholder, she will catch the best guy one day, of course it's not her fault, people can be so cruel and shallow and really guys like that are not worth knowing anyways...deep down she knows this and probably lacks some confidence because of it ...it's up to her to rise above people who have made her feel that way...

Answer 9

the psychology of men is if any girl whether she is beautiful or ugly moves close, like to have physical relationship with her.beauty or ugly are relative terms no body can define them

Answer 10

It's amazing... when you find someone who is witty, intelligent, fun to be with... minor things like looks don't matter.

I read a quote the other day attributed to Cinderella (?) that goes:

"Do you love me because I'm beautiful or am I beautiful because you love me?"