whose fault is it?

Question

when a man is drug dependent we sometimes say that it isnt his fault. that he is only a victim of peer pressure and society. when this same man rapes a woman who walks the streets alone at night in her most revealing clothes we say that it's not the victim's fault but the attacker's. where is the logic there? shouldnt it be the fault of the substance that made the man rape the victim? isnt it also the victim's fault for failing to recognize that it is not safe to walk the streets alone at night wearing almost nothing considering that there's plenty of deranged individuals out there who have completely lost their minds? pls dont get me wrong. rape is really really bad and must be punished no matter what. but dont you think that it is illogical to put all the blame on the attackers? some offenders are victims too and women should accept the fact that it's a dangerous world out there.

Answer 1

I don't buy into any of the "its not my fault" crap that you are spouting. As far as I'm concerned, it is that man's fault for being a drug addict and it is his fault for not being able to control himself. It is called RESPONSIBILITY.

Granted, the woman also has a responsibility to herself to not dress like a hooker and walk down a dark alley. But again, it comes back to self-control and being able to function in society.

And your comment that some offenders are victims too... well guess what? There are a hell of a lot more victims out there that don't become offenders... they suck it up and move on with their lives.

Answer 2

Oh, God, it's sick how many women think that being raped is the victim's own fault.

It's not. Ever. Not if she walks down the street naked.

Your analogy is flawed, for one thing--you can say that society is partly to blame for rape, just as you can say it is partly to blame for drug abuse. The idea that women have to dress in a sexy way to be valued, and that women exist to be sexually desired and possessed by men, is everywhere, and obviously plays into the mind of both the victim and the attacker in a situation like this. But you're equating "blaming" society with blaming the victim, and that's not the same thing.

Women should not just accept the fact that it's a dangerous world out there. I don't do anything stupid, but why should I be content to act like a potential victim all the time? Women and men should work together to change the "dangerous world" we live in.

Answer 3

Regardless of peer pressure, all the evidence and education is out there on how bad for you drugs are, you see the repercussions everywhere. So who's fault was it that the person did not say NO to the drugs in the first place, So you then should suffer the consequenses for your own actions of anything you do.

And no matter what someone is wearing, they could even be walking down the street naked(even tho I would stronly advise against this girls), but no one, not even someone under the influence of drugs, alcohol etc has the right to touch another person in any way shape or form.

Everyone is a victim of something, its time people stood up and took control of themselves.

Answer 4

First, no one says that drug addiction is the "fault" of peer pressure or society. Drug addiction is the result of a choice that the drug user made. Everybody suffers from peer pressure and social pressures, but everybody isn't an addict or criminal. If someone is hungry and steals food, it isn't the food's fault. If someone listens to your lame logic and punches you out, it's not your fault. It's the fault of the person who can't control himself enough to put up with your ignorance. And if young women choose to wear revealing clothes, maybe they are the victims because society refuses to give females any credit unless they are attractive. Or haven't you noticed that?

Answer 5

This is kind of like posing that drugs and drug dependancy can be equated with sexual attraction, sexual obsession, power dynamics, violence in our culture towards women and girls, and countless other factors that go into why rape is perpetrated, which it just can't. Being addicted to drugs is a physical dependancy that can be attributed to a wide range of catalysts such as genes, childhood environment, family situations, etc., BUT, when someone rapes someone else and then claims that they couldn't help it due to the extenuating circumstances like a short skirt or the fact that she was our late at night, it just doesnt hold up. Rape is a product of our violently masculinezed freakshow of a patriarchy, and to claim that one is not responsible for ones actions because they can't help it is rediculous. Women shouldnt have to be afraid to walk the streets alone at night for fear of rape, and they shouldt have to feel like they are (or be painted by society as) a "cause" or a "reason" for sexual violence.

Answer 6

Rape is about power, not sex or women wearing revealing clothes. Often an individual who has no power in his life will seek power by raping. Don't kid yourself. The thousands of women who are being raped every minute of the day are victims, not the rapists. Be clear on that.

Answer 7

Yes it is dangerous world but if we are saying that always there is planning for women's freedom then where is that ?Like males females should be free to move why should they think that the world is not safe.

But if we know that we cannot change the attitute of males towards female then we have to be conscious.we should not walk alone.so some offenders are victims too and women should accept the fact that it's a dangerous world out there.

Answer 8

True it is a dangerous world, but women and everyone else for that matter have a right to walk down a street and be safe. Rapists and drugs users are responsible for their own actions and no-one else can be to blame .

Answer 9

of course it is a dangerous world, but the main problem for a rapist to get punished is because all future troubles have to endured by the girl who was raped as such the rapist has to be punished. It is wrong to say that girls with revealing dresses act as a bait for a rapist to act as he did, we have seen and heard many cases where in minors including young children getting raped, what is there fault here? were they revealing? women in there homes have been raped what is there fault? were they revealing?.

Answer 10

I absolutely agree with you. See, people did not get used to putting the blame on those who is somehow feels insecure. it is illogical, but the society is looking for a victim overlooking all the other indispensable aspects of the crime or accident.