He married for 3years, during 2nd year of marriage, had a child. I started having a relationship with him during his 2nd year, broke up several times, he continue to come back to me. His wife found out about us and he decided to keep thing low for time being. 3rd year of marriage, he made his wife pregnant by which he claimed to be a accident. I was devasted and left him. And he came looking, begging for me soon. Now he is going for separation with her. And he want me to support and stick by him during this time. His wife is trying to win him back with the children. She always call to tell they are sick, and he need to go see them.
Should I stick by him? Should I leave? Do you think he love me?
2006-06-26 21:27:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
avoid this man, better still run as fast and as far away as you can from him
if he can be unfaithful to his wife, he can be unfaithful to you too
2006-06-27 00:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by tankee531 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably thinks he loves you, but you can find someone better.
He left his babies.
Once a cheater always a cheater. There's a pattern.
You need a new start too. Thank God you didn't get pregnant, that would have definately complicated things more.
He sounds confused. Ask him who he wants to be with - you or her.
Remember that if you stick with him those kids will always be in your life. The ex too. They will probably be in your wallet too because he has to support them.
You're an instant mom.
Become a bride 1st, then a mother. Marriage is hard enough without outside responsibilities.
2006-06-26 21:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl please.........Don't you watch Oprah? The same way you got him will be the same way you loose him. Do you really want to be with a man, that couldn't respect his wife enough to be faithful? You deserve better and besides, its all good right now, but when childsupport and the thrill of sneaking to be together is over, you'll have nothing in common, but the memory of what you use to do. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 21:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by sgame00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should leave and get out now.... It was never right for you to be with him to begin with . He is a married man for goodness sakes. He needs to work on his marriage and you should not try to break it up. Move on with your life and find someone to date and get to know that is single and available and not married. You are living in an adulterous life style and this is not right at all!
2006-06-27 01:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your hunsband and there is another girl who sticks to him, what do you think? I am not saying that you are wrong but you can treat this situation better. My suggestion is to let him finish the relationship with his wife first and then you can decide to be with him or not. You know, he has no right to have another girl until he divorces. He has no right to hurt you again and again. he has no right to torture his wife also.
If he loves you, he will try to protect you and not hurting other people.
2006-06-26 21:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno about the love thing, but, one thing for sure, you need not waste your time on this man. He would've married you, be with you wholeheartedly should he really wanted to. The question is, where does his heart is? he's your lover but to his wife and kids, he's a cheater! Think about that! I've had my share of having affair with married man, believe me, married man wont simply leave the wife for another wowan. He got you, what stops him from getting others?
2006-06-26 21:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by chasing rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up! He is playing you big time just as he is playing his wife! If he cheats on her with you he will cheat on you with someone else! Once a cheater, always a cheater......like it or not! You really need to forget this bum and move on.....he has wasted years of your life and if you allow him to do it any more you are an absolute fool!
2006-06-26 21:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a lot of single and baggage free men out there, do yourself a favor, leave him for your own good, do you want to feel guilty and pay child support for the next 20 yrs??? can you find any other man? if you can, run.
2006-06-26 21:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar..
This guy sounds like a weasel, and one with a lot of baggage at that. Look at it this way. Why would you want to be with someone who'd cheat on his wife and kids?
2006-06-26 21:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by Meranath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey darling,
Just leave him for now. Let him settle his problem first. Any decision he makes without having his family well taken care of will not be fruitful. You don't have to wait for him if you don't feel good about it. =) Take care yea, don't worry too much.
2006-06-26 22:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is not worth fighting for. Dump him fast before he cheats again and gets someone else pregnant.
2006-06-26 21:41:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋