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Question

Do leopards change their spots? My husband of 13 yrs was a terrible play boy when he was young and we got married at 21 years old but i haven't caught him doing anything wrong and i was wondering that do guys really change when they r married. just curious, asked him & he says he enjoyed his teen years & he saw many other girls while we were courting but now hes married and he takes his vows seriously. Is this possible.

Answer 1

So, how long have you had these feelings of wanting to have relations with other people? This is clearly a voice screaming out for some attention. You need to stop before you do some serious damage to your relationship with your husband. When you start making assumptions, this leads to accusations. Or worse, you actually believe he is capable of / and having, an affair. So you go have an affair. STOP. He's married to you. Still. Don't be a fool. Just Love him back and don't worry about his past.

Answer 2

Who else can really know but you? My take is that people generally don't change in a deep, fundamental way and this could be a major lie.

My take is that guys aren't trying to do anything evil it's just hardwired at a very deep and primordial level to seek out this sort of lustful behavior. It's more nature than anything else.

I can tell you this and you may not believe me: A guy can sleep with fifty women and still love you very, very much.

I know I'll get crucified for this but I wanted to be honest with you. Sex is more like food to men. It's just instinct. It's a reaction. it's not a dastardly plan trying to set out and destroy someone.

Remember, religion created marriage and we've been struggling with it ever since. The divorce rate is so high not because people want to hurt one another, but men ultimately can't live with these hellish physical constraints.

It's like being in prison. But does he love you? I would guess very much.

J

Answer 3

One of the last things a guy wants to hear is that his wife suspects him of cheating (regardless if he is or not.) Believe it or not there are men out there that are content with the way things went for him in the early years but has now moved on. He may think about other women but that is just human nature.

Answer 4

i am 50 years old. from the time i was 12 to 30 my only thoughts were having sex with every girl i met. i cheated on my wives and girlfreinds. that time has gone and i only want to give myself to the woman i love. sometimes i meet a woman that attracts me but i now have the maturity to walk away (sometimes with shaky knees) and go home to the one i want to be with.


p.s. thats not to say i won't fantasize about another gal while making love to my girlfreind.

Answer 5

I've been married almost 17yrs and the same applied. I did all of my running around before i got married and now we have 2 kids and i wouldn't think of sleeping around.

Answer 6

I was very promiscuous as a lad, but when I got married, I never strayed, as I am a one woman man. ( I have been celibate for almost 11 years since my wife got sick ).

Answer 7

Looks like he made the transistion from teen to man all in stride. It does happen and it would seem maturity and commitment are something he value as much as you.

Answer 8

Depends on the man, but if he finds everything he needs in you and your relationship I don't see why not.If you fear he wasn't faithfull, you can always test his fidelity (call him from a friend's home, tell him you met before and you want to see him) and see if he's honest.

Answer 9

don't believe once a cheater always a cheater trust me i did it and ill never do it again its not even cool at all.in fact it sucks i have to live with the label of the once a cheater always a cheater thing.love= trust until its proven otherwise.

Answer 10

Improbable.