Hi - my birthday is on the 10th july and on that day my husband is going to a concert of a singer which i really do not like. The day before he is watching the world cup final.
And on the 11th he has a work event which he says he cannot miss.
(He rarely goes out alone)
He wants me to go to the concert with him but it would be really boring for me and i dont want to spend my birthday the way HE wants but the way i want.
Do you think my husband is acting correctly? He doesnt wanna miss one from his 3 outings around my bday!
2006-06-26 20:41:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my plan is to have a girls night out but he wants me to go with him so that he will not feel guilty! and because none of his friends are going.
i am surely not going to that concert
2006-06-26 20:49:35 · update #1
Gail, the most important thing you can do here, and must do for your own sanity is to fully express these feelings to him. My own wife has beaten me across the head for similar wrongs but it's tough to judge an entire relationship out here in cyberland with just a paragraph to decipher it.
The work event seems legit, the world cup final is once every four years, so I understand that, sorry, we just love sports, but he should plan an evening with you that focuses strictly on what you enjoy.
Raise his awareness on these issues or you'll just suffer internally and have only yourself to blame.
Marriage is tough, god help us, but I don't think it's July 10 itself that is so critical but the effort he makes to give you the night you need whether it be the 7th or the 14th. I think that's what matters most.
If that fails, root against his favorite team and tell him you're pregnant with triplets.
J
2006-06-26 21:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by filmjeff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well perhaps he isn't being so much a bad husband as he is being a selfish person/husband. Perhaps you need to remind him that he did marry you, not the public. Remind him too of what you do for him on his birthdays (much less year round) and it will be his birthday again at some point. Do unto others and all that. The work he may not be able to get out of. But the concert or T.V. he can get out of. He is being plain selfish, selfish, selfish!!
2006-06-27 03:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have birthdays once a year. The least he can do is show how grateful he is to have you in his life and celebrate this day with you the way you want to celebrate it. He's showing signs of selfishness and this is not all about him and his needs and wants. He owes you an apology for even suggesting he go to the concert.
2006-06-27 03:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your birthday isn't here yet. You are trying to predict the future. Maybe this is an elaborate scheme leading to a big Bday surprise. Maybe not. But you can write us on the 11th and we'll know you have a good reason to gripe.
I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.
2006-06-27 03:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea... .but I do not think you should go to the concert! I think you should make plans with a good friend and do something you want to do to make you have a good birthday. I would be pissed too. But I don't know him or his disposition, so I really would have to take that into consideration for being mad at him... but you should not go to that concert just to please him.. That is your special day.--with or w/out him...
2006-06-27 03:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very busy husband. I think you should talk to him and tell him what you want, besides it's your birthday. If it's my wife's b-day, I will cancel all my appointments just to be with her on that special day. Maybe your husband should reconsider his priorities. Try talking to him in a loving and seductive way.
2006-06-27 03:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Seeker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that you want him to spend time with you on your birthday and that there will be more concerts (maybe you can get him tickets for one around his birthday). But its your day, you oughtta choose what you wanna do.
2006-06-27 03:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by daveyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him want you want. No body can drag you and take you to the concert if you say no to him. Its your birthday a big day, enjoy it the way you want.
2006-06-27 04:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call some girlfriends and have a girls night out!
2006-06-27 03:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by zorahudson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he's been unfair. And he knew your b-day was on the 10th so asking him to sacrifice one day isn't asking too much!
2006-06-27 04:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋