ok, so here's what's up. i am a 13 year old and like every other teen ager i go to the pool in the summer and have fun. so everytime i go i go with my mother. and i am quite big. i am developing really quickly, and guys just seem to look at me a lot. now, i do not like this. they look at me like they are going to eat me up in a million pieces. i am scared. i see them about every day and i am scared. some of them are REALLY big and old, like they have beards and all. it also gets on my nerves that they look at me even though i am that small. what should i do? i know i am only 13 but people say i look up to 16 years old. should i tell these guys (that by the way, one of them is about 30) that i am young and to please stop looking at me? i need help. and please, no mean or stupid answers. thanks for the help. i apreciate it.
2006-06-26 20:26:48 · 19 answers · asked by *BeTtY* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
manu: i DO NOT provoke these men if that is what you are trying to point out ok? i am much more interested in having a helthy life and not a baby to change in the age of 13 ok hun?
2006-06-28 11:06:42 · update #1
If they come to flirt with u or something just look at them and go hey buddy I'm 13 buzz off !
2006-06-26 20:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Vidra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly you need to tell your mother and also grow up. I developed at an early age to, even earlier than you, and you need to start acting more mature. If guys are staring at you, let them know that you're not just some "scared" little girl that's going to jump every time someone says boo!, but that you're a young woman that says no and means it.
And frankly, I don't know how you dress when you're at the pool, but if you're dressed like a tramp, people are going to see you that way. Dress like a young woman, things that are flattering, but not overly sexed...leave that to the actual women. Don't be scared or self-conscious about your appearance, but understand that you are now a young, developing woman, and you have to start acting like one...which means setting down boundaries and knowing when to ask for help.
So talk to your mother, tell the guys at the pool to back off, dress more mature, and be sure of yourself; which means knowing your limits and not coming onto the net looking for help...this is your parents and your issue, not someone else's.
2006-06-26 20:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, its not your fault of any sort. And I am so sorry that you will be going through this so many time in the near future. You cant just stay inside or let these pigs get away of making you feel like this. What I did when i was your age and was put in that situation. I have four brothers and i told them what was going on. If you have anyone who is your protector or older sister, cousin or even your parent tell them. Or handle it your self. But do not show them any kind of fear to these pigs. I hope I did not give you any wrong or mistake answer.
2006-06-26 20:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ihateujbw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell your Mom about it. Make sure your swimsuit is a one piece that covers as much as possble, and possibly wear a t-shirt. I developed early too, and I hated the attention. Just do your best to keep yourself well covered. The less skin they can see, the less interested they'll be. Its disgusting, but true. If it gets too bad, maybe ya'll need to stop going to the pool, or bring a book and don't swim. You shouldn't have to go somewhere that you are scared to be.
2006-06-26 20:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are always going to look so that's not going to stop. So the best you can do is not talk to this men. What concerns me is that you said that you see them everyday, I would advice you not to go out by yourself and keep your distance if they are looking at you like they want to eat you, then you know they are not thinking about good things. So tell your mom and dad or uncle or older friends get together and confront this men about the looking that is making you uncomfortable but if one of them is trying to get you to do anything sexual call the police they can go to jail for soliciting a minor.
2006-06-26 20:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by ybzcarlos1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should read the label on the box. She is most likely able to use it. But no diet patch is going to work without diet and exersize. Trust me! I know for experience. Plus, I know it's hard, but that 8 glasses of water a day WILL help. Working out WITH her, would more than likely help too, it's always good to have a partner while losing weight.
2016-03-27 05:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. ti's a fact of life women and girls that are very well developed get loads of attention..this will continue non-stop the rest of your life..you can wear old maid swimming suits,clothing and that should at least get rid of some of your gawking fans...remember those guys are purely attracted to your body...you're stuck with it..you control reactions to guys approaching you either warm or cold...good luck
2006-06-26 20:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them.. and if that does not work, then just stare at them or let the person running the pool area, know that you are being harassed. Plus your mom could say something to them! I would just stare back at them and cross my arms--give them the LOOK-to kill.
Plus I would point at them, kiss my hand and smack my butt--that is a nice way of saying you can kiss my ***.
2006-06-26 20:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety guys r like that u will have to try to get used to it the older u get the more they will look and one day u will want them to look we all had to go through it hang in there
2006-06-26 21:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shop for new bathing suits that de-emphasize your development. One piece rather than two-piece. High necklines rather than low necklines. Etc.
Arrange to go with friends your own age, if you are busy with them, you won't notice the stares as much.
2006-06-26 20:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by shoshidad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋