- the parents of my gf, mad at me! What should i do?

Question

my gf`s mom & dad mad at me, they dont like me to be the father of thier grandchild.

Answer 1

You are what you are
break no laws
tell no lies
betray noone
give support and love
what else can they complain about

Answer 2

It depends on why they are mad. To be a good father takes real commitment. You have to be there for her and the baby. Work hard to pay the bills. Show the parents that you are a real man. If you can show that you love their daughter and will be a committed father, they will come around eventually. Every parent wants the best for their children and an unplanned pregnancy tends to make a parent feel their daughter has limited opportunities. If she is still in school, help her to finish school. If not now, help her to get a good education in the near future. Appreciate her!

Answer 3

Is the issue that they don't like YOU, or that they don't like HER GETTING PREGNANT? If they would be happy to have a grandchild, but not with you as the father, then you have to ask what their problem is with you. Is there a personality clash? Have you done something that offended them? Do they just think you won't be mature or financially stable enough to raise a child? If, on the other hand, they don't want her to have a child now, you have to think about whether they have a point. Is she very young? In any case, if you were not trying to conceive,and you had unprotected sex, then you have only yourselves to blame.

Answer 4

Try really hard to fix things between you guys. Your child will be the one that will suffer. I know I did. Its terrible when your loved ones are fighting and there is nothing you can do to make it better. As for them liking you to be the daddy of their grandchild , they can not change that. They need to accept you . Until they accept you as the daddy their will always be a problem. Try to be as nice as you can to them and they will eventuallyl return that kindness. Is there any harsh things that you said that you could apologize for ? If this was a one time thing than I say go ahead and apologize for whatever happened and act like everythings okay. If fights are happening all of the time , maybe you should just try talking to them and fixing it that way. Good Luck

Answer 5

If you do your job (help the mother, support the child and be a good father) you'll see that their anguish at their unmarried daughter being pregnant (perhaps too soon if she's young) change. There's really no perfect situation to bring a human life into the world as everyone has some kind of problems to deal with (too young, too old, work too much, no money, marriage on the rocks, etc.). Just do those things and you'll be fine.

Answer 6

If their daughter is pregnant by you than there's nothing they can do. It's too late..What's done is done.
My question is...why don't they want you to be the father of their grandchild, do they know something about you that would explain why they have ill feelings regarding you being the father of this child? perhaps your character, you treat(ed) their daughter poorly, Or there's some indication you probably want be around to support the child, etc. What?
As someone mentioned...these are questions you have to ask yourself.

Answer 7

What you need to do is sit down and ask them of their concerns. Ask them why they think this way of you...and remember this one LISTEN...dont talk back and dont tell them what you think of them...just listen and if there are some reasonable things that you can change then do it...if they are not reasonable then explain to them that those things just aren't possible...and always be honest with them...show them some responsibility and make sure you do it on a daily basis and not just a fly by night thing...maybe watch the baby while your wife goes to the salon...sometimes if you spoil their daughter and show them how much you love her and how well you take care of her then that might help...there's always two sides to the story so I think its very important that the four of you sit down in a calm manner and talk about each others feelings...but remember let them talk first and always keep your cool no matter what...that shows discipline, maturity, responsibility, etc....good luck

Answer 8

I think you should stand up and say that its not there life. If you and your girlfriend love each other then its your decision to have a child. My parents didn't like the guy i now call my husband, If your in-laws aren't going to except you and your child as part of there family then they are the ones to miss out. Please talk to your gf and if its true love and make sure it is before you have a child together. If her parents don't want your relationship to work make sure they don't get a say because they have there own life's to deceiver. Good luck

Answer 9

Well if she's pregnant & your the father- They'll learn to accept it-
It's part of all parents to be upset at the guy to get their daugher pregnant- especially if their not married or if there are other reasons you have left out

Other than that- regardless nothing they can do will ever change the fact that you are the daddy- especially if your always gonna be a part of that baby's life

Answer 10

Is she pregnant? I would be mad at both of you too, for not having enough brains to use a condom. If you don't work, get a job to show that you can be responsible for taking care of their daughter and grandchild.

Answer 11

That is just too bad. They really have no choice as to who the father of there grandchild is.