My friend never has a boy friend but she gets crushes on everyone. She has me speak to guys for her and they all say they would never want to go out with her. The reasons they give me are that she is rude, crude to loud and two guys said she has an odor. I don't want to hurt her feelings but when I try to speak to her she says its my fault they won't go out with her, that I am saying the wrong things to them because I am jealous. I have no problems getting dates so thats not it. how do I handle this? I am tired of being in the middle should i let the guys tell her themselves?
2006-06-26 19:27:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd tell her the truth that the guys think she acts like a jerk.
And since she thinks that your telling the guys the wrong things, for her to talk to them herself. that you tired of being the middleman.
Also, you might suggest a perfume or deodorant you like.
But that will have to be done with Tact.
Example....Hey guess what I found?...I found this new perfume/deodorant that smell real nice. Have you tried it yet?
If she says "No", then offer her to try it.
2006-06-26 19:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by iwish40 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she really needs help in confidence. Maybe she can talk to a counselor. You should let the guys talk to her. It's not your fault, anyway. You didn't do anything but ask the guys to go out with her. If she has crushes on someone, she needs to go to her crush and build friendship. Once friendship is built, she can get a little bit closer to him. Tell your friend to apologise to you. You didn't do anything wrong. Tell the guys to talk to her positively so she's not heart-broken.
2006-06-27 02:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lost_Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one option. The other is, she really needs a psychiatrist. People with problem of externalization won't get that far in this world.
2006-06-27 03:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say talk her into having some "fun" with u, her, and one of the guys. But thats just my opinion.....Just one thing though: make sure she washes before you do that!
2006-06-27 20:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea let guyz tell her themselves, cuz its not ur fault
its hers for being smelly and ugly
no offense
luv ya
jess
2006-06-27 02:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by GC_RiotGrl_879 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say: "You must look like me!, JUST HAVE A BATH TO GET A RID OF ODOR!"
2006-06-27 02:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by hurshid21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to do her own dirty work, you are not her slave ok she is going to blame you for everything anyways so just ignore her.
2006-06-27 02:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋