Because most of the questions here have to deal with troubled marriages. Anybody in here happily married? If so, explain how you make your marriage work.
2006-06-26 19:19:39 · 18 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby and I have a wonderfully happy marriage!
First, we had both been married before, AND we learned from our mistakes... Both were long not-too-bad marriages, but not happy ever after kind either.
Second, we are very well matched. We have so much in common, sometimes it's scary, but enough difference to keep it spicey. We have common goals, desires, dreams and personalities that work well together.
Third .. we both believe steadfastly in open communication ... esp when we don't feel like it. Also, we look out for the good of the other, are constantly doing little things for each other.
We have only been together five years, but during that time we have gone through some devestating experiences and very difficult times (financial reversal, health problems, family issues) and weathered them all together.
And one of the most important things ... neither of us takes ourself or life too seriously ... we laugh about everything. We focus on being joyful, on finding the humour in just about everything.
Yep, it does exist!
2006-06-26 19:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are happily married and I agree with JustWant2B that the happily married ones don't need advice.My marriage is a very complicated one - when I met my husband, he had just gotten back to the US from Iraq and was still married to his ex-wife, although he was going through a divorce because his ex cheated on him, left him, and dumped their kids in foster care. He was fighting tooth and nail, doing everything the courts told him to do to get the kids back. I had two kids from a previous relationship, which, added to the mix, makes 7 kids. He and I spent a LOT of time talking on the phone and visiting with each other before we decided to get engaged. We discussed a lot of things, many of them important in building a relationship, and had a good foundation on which to build a marriage.
Now that we're married, what keeps us happy is listening to each other, paying attention to what the other's needs and wants are. We try not to argue, but when we do, we always make up. We try not to fight about stupid stuff, but when we do, whoever started the fight usually apologizes. We spend time together, someimes doing nothing but just being with each other.
I think what makes our marriage so happy is the fact that we WANT it to work out, so we do everything in our power to MAKE it work out. We're just human, though, so sometimes we're not happy. No one can be happy all the time. But we love each other, we're friends with each other, we respect each other, and we both have a desire to make the other person happy. That right there is a winning combination.
I hope I helped you. :)
2006-06-27 03:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea_1101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Yes and Yes again.... My husband and I are VERY happily married. The troubled marriages on here make my heart sad. Basically marriage is what you make it to be. Loving your spouse goes far beyond just a feeling it is a choice. You either are commitend to your marriage and spouse or you are not. My husband and I are commited to each other and Christ is the center of our marriage. We work at our marriage and we are devoted and cherish and love each other. One thing i have learned is to respect my husband and to love him where he is at. I have learned not to be selfish but to be selfless and to never try to change him but to let God have control over his life and to work on him and what he needs changed. Basically to be a praying wife and not a nagging on who always grumbles and complains. I do however try to change what is not good in me so that i can learn how to be a better and more loving wife to him that i need to be. You choose who you marry so you live with that choice and work on the marriage and the more you work at and on your marriage the more it can become like heaven here on earth. I enjoy my spouse and he enjoys me. Been together almost 8 years now and I love him more and more every day and it just grows better and stronger over time. We treat and love each other the way we want to be treated! We also communicate well and talk things out and through. Forgiveness of each others imperfections and faults is key too! Don't we want them to forgive us for ours?
2006-06-27 01:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am. we have a very trusting loving relationship. My hubby is a manly man but at the same time he could be sensitive and very caring. He is a great father as well. We both get pleasure out of pleasing the other. A happy marriage is something that takes work but we believe we are a team that goes through life together no matter how hard it gets.
2006-06-26 19:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by FL P.I. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am blissfully, happily married. Communication is the most important thing in any marriage. Honesty. We respect each others differences and agree to disagree about different opinions we have. We accept each other totally and completely.
2006-06-26 19:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A happy marriage falls into the same category as Santa Claus and the Easter bunny. It doesn't exist!
2006-06-26 19:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by bobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Married And I'm Happy If That Helps!
2006-06-26 20:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by 66hamerheadPD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 35 years.i don't know whether i should call my marriage a happy or successful. happiness means different things for different people. during this time we had to face many problems which somehow managed to come out of them. we had to sacrifice many a things for our children., for our in laws. still we thought it was our duty. so, we didn't feel that bad about it. as a husband & wife we have problems. he is an introvert, doesn't like to travel, keeps himself aloof. i am an axtravort. love to go out & have fun. but i have very good friends who( ladies) give me compeny. still i cannot think of my life without him & i know that he cannot be without me (though he never tells me ) we have a sort of got used to each other. if u call this marriage a happy & successful yes we r happy together. i know that he is there for me & i am there for him.
2006-06-26 19:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats because the happily married don't need advice. Sorry I am not one of them.
2006-06-26 19:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could find the person that would finally make me feel at peace :-)
The one who could make my restless heart dwell in the sweetness of true love :-)
People are so caught up in the day to day crap that they do not focus on their relationships.
I love meeting couples who have been married since, like, the 60's. I envy them...
But, to let you know, they are out there.
It can happen, it just takes patience, communication, and love :-)
2006-06-26 19:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋