im about to give birth and my fiance left me...i want to die im so depressed
2006-06-26 19:14:32 · 14 answers · asked by worried 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How awful that you are sad enough to state that. Please talk to someone and soon! Surely there is someone within your family or a close friend that you can sit down and talk to about this. You are stating why he left, but sometimes they run because they are scared too. You need to really think about your child and the love you have to offer him/her and focus on that. If you can channel it in another direction, maybe it will help with the pain of losing him at a time like this. No matter what, your life and the life of your child are very important! Do not lose sight of that!
Good luck, sweetie!
2006-06-26 19:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine how alone you must feel. But you wont be alone for long. You will have a new life with you soon. Its new and sweet and waiting to start its life. And all it wants is someone to be there for it. YOU have to be that person. It deserves a chance at a wonderful life. You need to be there and make sure no one does to him or her what your fiance did to you. LIVE. Be there for that new life. Be better than the person that hurt you. New people do come along. I Lost my husband 3 months after my son was born. I thought I would never love again and who would want me with a baby. But guess what? I met Joe 6 months later. My son is 7 now. Joe and I got married 2 years ago and its wonderful. At the wedding my son and he exchanged vows also. It was so cool. Joe loves my son like he was his own and my son loves him too. Give yourself and your baby a chance at a wonderful life. Death is way too perminent and there is no chance of things ever getting better once your gone. Be with friends. Find someone you trust to help you with the birth and do what you have to financially, be daycare and going right back to work if you can. If not then you can do welfare(its not a shameful thing if it means keeping your baby and giving it a chance. Its for people who really need it. So if you need it, dont let your pride stop you.)or going back to mom and dad. What ever it takes to make a life for that baby with or without your fiance. It wont be easy but it will get easier eventually and you will find love again. Not all guys are jerks. Please know that others have been there and survived and thrived. Give yourself the gift of life and new beginings. I wish you and your new baby to be all the best life has to offer. Hugs.
2006-06-26 19:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by lady_effie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't be depressed Soon you will have the best thing ever in your life and you will want to stay here to take care of your new littlebaby. This little baby is waiting to come to this world for you to take care of and to cuddle and hold and to love. I don;t know the details of why your fiance left you, is it maybecause he is scared too? Becoming a parent can be very scary. You ask yourself all kinds of questions like, I can I provide, will I be a good parent. Trust me, your life will have more meaning than you will ever know. I am sorryif I sound like a hallmark card now, but I also just had a baby in october and I have another little girl who is 19 months and we are so broke sometimes we don't know if we can buy diapers but all I have to do is see them smile or listen to them say mommy and it makes it all worthwhile. So please don't be depressed. Talk to friends and family or if you want to you can talk to me. Good luck
2006-06-26 19:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by suzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is going to need you and need your love and emotional stability.
Your ex-fiance sounds like a flaky sh**. At least you know now, right away, before the baby is born, that you can't count on him at all. Don't let him back! The world is full of better men than that.
Spend as much time as you can right now with your family and close friends -- they know you are scared and depressed.
2006-06-26 19:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sonya is right honey, just concentrate on becoming a mom. Once the baby is born, you'll think of nothing else anyhow. The fiance might just be the man you thought he was and ask if he can come back to you. Ron Couch
2006-06-26 19:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be ridiculous. Those are the feelings your fiance should be experiencing for leaving you and the baby. Get your self together you are soon going to be responsible for someone else's life.
2006-06-26 19:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by sonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? God designed us to give life. So more importantly you are doing his will of giving life but if you ever take your life or anyone else you are going against his will. You are the source of life for that new life not your fiance.
2006-06-26 19:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by sade d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...thats pretty rough.
I've got a friend who is going through nearly the exact circumstances. Except she's already given birth.
The only answer I've got to offer you is that I'm praying for you. I don't really know who you are, but I assure you that I am. God is still there, still taking care of you. He'll never leave you.
Feel free to get ahold of me if you need to talk to someone. My email is deepseafisherman06@yahoo.
2006-06-26 19:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the silver lining about rock bottom is that things can only get better. If he left you under such circumstances he probably wasnt worth having in your child's life anyway. I wish you well. Things will get better.
2006-06-26 19:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by ClintH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens, yet rather, you arent depressed, you're kinda unwell... my rfile gave me serta for a month... a gentle dosage... i felt super, became in a position to think of better... so attempt a cut back
2016-12-08 13:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by holtslander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋