I just dont know! We ahve been together for 6 years, married 4, and I just feel so empty. We have a 2 year old that takes up most of my time. He works full time, and when he gets home he goes straight for the TV or the computer. The olny time he wants to make love is when it's good for him. The only passionate kisses I get anymore are when he's " in the mood". I've tried adding new stuff in the bedroom, but he's not interested. He actually got mad that I bought "toys". I feel like he's not inlove with me anymore, and just stays because I'm a last resort. I've told him tis time and time again, but still there's no change. I need help! I feel so sad.
Thanks for letting me vent, I could use all the advise you all have.
2006-06-26 19:09:25 · 7 answers · asked by Rachel C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's time for some counseling! If he won't go, you go! You need someone to bounce things off and to get good solid objective input from.
He may be in a personal slump himself. If he has very little sex drive and is tired a lot, he might have low testosterone, it is not an uncommon condition. Suggest he have a complete physical, just to make sure everything is okay, tell him you are concerned about him and want to make sure everything is all right physically.
It may be he is worried about a lot of things, and doesn't know how to communicate, or doesn't feel he should. Guys often think they should be strong and keep things to themselves.
What I am saying is, it might not be about you at all, though it is definitely affecting you. And it could be that he doesn't like you bringing up the subject, so he pulls more into himself, and goes to the TV and computer to avoid interaction.
I feel for you, I know this is a very difficult situation. Don't just let it go on! Get some outside help, at least to vent, and possibly to help the two of you communicate better.
Best of luck to you!!
2006-06-26 19:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's still very much in love with you just at the part of marriage where it's more of a routine thing right now. Changing things around won't do much good he's tired and stressed out when he gets home from work and he finds his comfort on t.v. and the p.c. You have to find out things he's interested in and converse more about this. Quit talking about he need to change and try something different like plan a weekend getaway take your child if you can't get a sitter and get out and have some fun or just relax but definitely go somewhere and look sexy! Good luck and remember he still loves you.
2006-06-26 19:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes mad about the toys buy more tell him u aint giving it to me so where u going to get it and then let him suffer for awhile sleep in another room let him hear u can have fun w/o him maybe hes going gay if this behavior continues ask for a divorce u deserve to be happy also
2006-06-26 19:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by emmaray2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray to god and research white magic only it has spells on how to dominate the guy and keeping him binded yust dont let him know your practicing this stuff lay ;low not all people are open minded no offense
2006-06-26 19:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by PP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men like hunters. once he accomplished his prey, the interest would stale, the excitement gone. so, dont get caught! let him go on hunting!
2006-06-26 22:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by chasing rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stuck in the same ol' rut,, taken for granted & not appricated... but madd about some toys?? is he going gay?????
2006-06-26 19:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spark it up with another guy...
2006-06-26 19:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by hard_in_temecula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋