We have only been together for a 1 1/2 and I think its too soon. I would like to know if anyone else has been in this situation? Could you give me any advise?
2006-06-26 18:59:36 · 12 answers · asked by Redonk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, some questions ....
How old are you both? (If you are 20, you might want to wait, if you are 30, you oughta be ready)
Have you discussed all the "marriage" questions ... like children (when, how many, how far apart, parenting styles); finances (saving, whether you want to buy a house, how you plan to budget and manage the money); religion; employment issues (esp. in regards to after children); plan for resolving disputes; vacation and retirement goals; extended family; friends.
The courting time is for getting to know each other and deciding whether you are a good match. Are you feeling that you don't know each other well enough yet? Or are you wanting to get more financially stable first? Or is one of you still in school?
These are all things to consider, and to discuss at length with each other. Communication is the real key to a successful relationship and marriage.
Best of luck to you both!
Start talking!
2006-06-26 19:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a year you should know if she's the one or not.
My husband and I had to wait many years because I thought I wasn't ready, but the whole time I did nothing but compare every guy to him.
While I was making up my mind he married someone else it wasn't till seven years later we got together and got married and I wish everyday I wouldn't had wasted all those years waiting on the one I already had in the first place.
Questions:
Did God create the two of you for each other
Can you see yourself with her when your 80
Would you two take care of each other regardless
Is she who you want to mother your children
These are questions you should be able to answer in order to get married.
2006-06-27 02:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by 2smomma77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what is on your mind. To me, year and a half is too soon. My hubby propose to me after the second week we been together. Now he was a fast cat. But I push it away and waited for three years later.
Don't just hop in there to please her. You have right and a mind of your own. Tell her to wait and see if the relationship will grow stronger. You and her still standing on weak ground. If you get marry now, you and her both might regret it later.
Rushing into things can sometimes backfire.
2006-06-27 10:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend fell into the exact same situation you're in. I knew his girlfriend was hot to marry him....and I warned the guy several times.
Well....after one of their wild flights in bed, she (and I still don't know how she did it)got him to propose to her.
Well....six months later, they got married. Wonderful wedding....killer fun reception: the works! Three months into it, he calls me, seriously contemplating divorce while it's safe . Two hours later, he stops by the house....laments divorce is now out: she just told him a baby's on the way.
OUCH!
Well.....10 years later: they're still together (happy, I guess). Ohhh, but they do have some firey fights each week or so......
Do you want THAT in your life or what????
2006-06-27 02:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she in such a hurry? Being together 2-3yrs before getting married should be a good amout of time. If it feels right then go for it regardless of how long you've been together.
2006-06-27 03:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its personal judgement call of how you view and feel the relationship has grown. If its maxed out and Marriage is the only thing left then don't waste time sitting around gettin older, make ur lives happy and finish what u started.
2006-06-27 02:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by looknohands 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say 2-3 years is a good nmber to know if you two will really make it, if she is pushing that might not be a good sign ask why and let her know you care but want to wait
2006-06-27 02:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
husband say if you get married youre making the biggest mistake of youre life he knows he been thru 2 divorces marriage isint anything put a peice of paper
2006-06-27 02:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should get to know her better you know tell her I really love you and i know our love is strong enough to survive any situation but i think we should spent more time together bind to each other slowly or have dicussion with her keep it calm tell her how you feel let her go first though the ladies are always first tell her you really love her and mainly talk with her.
2006-06-27 02:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by PP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know here 2 yrs ago and i am willing to marry her today now at this moment,but we cant alot of things have to be arranged b/f such as suitable home--- good car......
2006-06-27 02:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by 7emsi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋