I can't think of any good reason to come out of the closet. It just seems like it would attract negative attention and discrimination rather than anything positive.
2006-06-26 18:41:06 · 23 answers · asked by Brett 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its up to the individual. Coming out of the closet doesn't mean you have to come out to everyone, or wear a T-Shirt which reads "I'm gay/bi and proud of it". Some people are selective in coming out i.e. they come out to friends/family but not work colleagues.
The process of coming out to other people is considered by some to be a final resolution of coming to terms with sexuality. One no longer has to put up with parents/friends constantly saying "when are you going to get married/have children?" nor do they have to worry about being spotted by a member of family should they go into a gay establishment.
You don't have to come out if you don't want to, or are not ready. Another thing about coming out to someone is that it becomes easier each time you do this, and gain supporters.
If you don't want to come out to friends/family, then at the very least come out to yourself and the LGBT community (so you can make friends in that area) - but only when you're ready and comfortable.
2006-06-26 19:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by nemesis 5 · 16⤊ 3⤋
Coming Out is like a declaration that you are proud of who you are. Not choosing to come out of the closet is confirming to yourself that there is something wrong with you that you must hide. And that is certainly not true! While it is harder when you are younger and dependent on your parents, when you grow older and you meet that special person-you won't have to hide them for fear of revealing anything about yourself.
Plus do you realize how much effort it takes to stay in the closet? You will spend more effort hiding that you are gay than it will take to make yourself known, and the latter is a lot more life affirming than the former.
2006-06-27 10:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by John Smith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't think of a good reason NOT to come out of the closet! If your a closet lesbian or closet gay, your not happy, unless you really really don't want to be gay! We were born this way, and god gave us free will, and chose to live the lifestyle, because it's what we felt would make us happy in our hearts! I think you are only using your head and not your heart, and your head and heart are 17 inches apart, and that is the longest journey you will ever take honey!
2006-06-27 02:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is coming out even though it is a big step to make it will help you feel free about your sexuality and not have to hide who you reallly are and how you feel. Coming out also help relieve all the pressure you have. Cause if you don't come out the feeling that your living a lie will eat you up and drive you somewhat over the edge. Celebrate who you really our, by coming out of the closet.
2006-06-27 19:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about sanity? You could go crazy living a lie - hiding your partners (and your activities with them) from all. Consider too how it would make any partner feel to be treated in a second-class way.
Yes coming out is not without it's repercussions - and you have to weigh the pros and cons of it, to your own situation - but it's not like you need to sew a pink triangle to the clothes you're wearing. You can still be discreet, telling only those with who you have a firm relationship - family & friends. It's none of work's business but you might feel obliged to tell them one day or, at least, if asked don't lie.
2006-06-27 08:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although this can be a painful experience, people who have come out of the closet can finally access "the scene." It's a really different experience and some people really like it like that. In addition, coming out makes it easier for you to find "the one" =) It is also relief and so on...
2006-06-27 04:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is living a lie worth it? Eventually everyone, well most everyone, gets to the point where all the lying and deceiving isn't worth it any more. You realize that your are hurting other people, but mainly yourself.
Be true to who you are and who God made you to be. At first coming out will be rough, but later you will look back and wonder who you hesitated for so long.
2006-06-27 11:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well coming out does not mean jumping out and screaming at the top of your lungs ..."I'M Gay", the only thing healthy about it is you are living your life and not in fear, not in fear of someone finding out, not in fear of falling in love, not in fear. You don't have to tell everyone, but from the negative attention you receive positive attention to, you find out who your real friends are, those who stand by you regardless of your life. You don't walk around wondering who is gonna find out and who are they gonna tell.
But when you are ready to do this you will know and never let someone tell you when the right time is you decide, but honestly the younger the better, the sooner you can get on with your life.
2006-06-27 02:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by Wheels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not rush it, just let it take its time. and when the time is right, you'll come out.
when is the time right you ask? when you feel really sick and tired about living your life in the closet, having to lie about why you are still single when everyone else is married or attending functions alone without your partner......
the reason for coming out is getting past yourself... being honest with yourself and others about who you really are
negative attention from others you say?
i say sod 'em! you don't owe them anything..... just as long as you don't shove your sexuality down their throats, i think they' be OK with you too
2006-06-27 13:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rainbow nation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh Brett....do not deny yourself of being who you are!!!! My gran-daughter told us when she was 13 that she was attracted to her same sex.That took courage.She is now 19 and a well adjusted Lesbian.Be proud of yourself and do not let other people put their worth on you instead of you claiming your own self worth.When i look at my grandaughter i do not look at her for who she chooses to have sex with,but i look at her heart,her mind,her inner beauty and what she has to offer this world.I can not think of a better reason to come out than YOU. Be true to yourself Brett. Love life,Love strong and LAUGH often!!!!! Big T
2006-06-27 01:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by Big T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that depends on the individual and I think most people would feel happier and more comfortable once it's all out in the open. plus why worry about what everyone else thinks it's your life just be yourself
2006-06-27 01:45:23 · answer #11 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋