What do you do when your wife likes to hang out with her lesbian friend that she has had relations with?

Question

She has two kids.

Answer 1

cry

Answer 2

You are leaving out a lot. Since you have come to the answer place I am going to assume that what your wife is doing is bothering you. If you are asking "here" for advice on what to do...then I may again assume that you have made it clear to your wife that you do not like it? You see your question is not clear. You may as well have asked. "What do you do when your wife insists on doing something you don't like....even though she knows very well it is upsetting to you?" You question doesn't need to have lesbians in it. The problem is with YOU. Now you have 2 kids and a marriage that is not working the way you want. Have you suggested counciling? Women are usually surprised to hear the man suggest counciling. Men naturally avoid counciling like they avoid asking for directions.
It's like this. Either you are going to get over it and allow your wife to hang out with her former lover or you aren't. Here is a speech for you. Think about what you want in your marriage. Talk to smart people. Parents, friends parents, clergy,

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Hey! Guess what? I don't think that you hanging out with a former lover is a good and healthy way to keep this marriage strong. I certainly don't thing that "I" should be hanging out with former lovers of mine. I don't feel important to you when you do it. I want to feel important. I want to know that I matter and that what I want in this marriage is being taken seriously. I'm afraid. That is the bottom line here. I'm scared. Do you honestly think that hanging out with a former lover of yours is a good way to make the marriage strong? Do you want to be married to me?
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You may not like some of the answers you get. Your wife may not find you "any fun" or "exciting" any more. It may be that it is just convenient for you and her to stay married because of money and social pressure. Marriage is a hard thing to take care of. You have to really want to stay the course to make it work. Evey time you turn around there is another good reason to get divorced. Back in the Pioneer days a man and a woman worked so hard at survival they didn't have time to assess how much "fun" or "excitment" the other person was giving them. Now we have romance novels and movies and the neighbors to compare our lives to .....So to answer your question the way it was asked: I'd tell her I don't like it. I'd ask question about what she wants and what she is willing to do to make it better...I'd ask what she wants me to do to help make it better. These questions often lead to heartaches and smart *** remarks and can lead to arguments and fights....all of which can and will lead to the next right thing....be that , separation, divorce, counciling, or making love. If nothing changes.......nothing changes.
stir it up...what have you got to lose?

Answer 3

Wow! This sure as heck sounds like Adult Content to me, I cant believe that everyone here hasnt been flagged by the Puritan Squad yet for just looking at this flagrant example of Adult Content! Would love to weigh in as well, but don't want to be sent to the Internet equivalent of Bejing by the good comrades at Yahoo...

Answer 4

Find out what is going on. I think it would be difficult to be friends with someone that you used to sleep with but not impossible. Get her to be honest about what the relationship is.

Answer 5

well if you don like the video camra idea....
get a divorce or go **** a gay dude to get her back

Answer 6

Try waking the hell up & divorcing the skank.

Answer 7

buy a digital video camera...a pizza...and stop bitching

Answer 8

you worry big time

Answer 9

DIVORCE