2006-06-26 17:55:50 · 4 answers · asked by sumitra s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there honest respect between the two of you? Good.
Does one of you think you're smarter than the other? Bad.
Can you talk easily with each other? Good.
Do they frustrate you because they won't listen? Bad.
Do you share common interests? Good.
Do you agree on how to raise children? Good.
Do you think they keep secrets from you?
Do you believe that this is a lasting love?
Are you committed to making it a lifetime promise?
Are you going into it with the idea that if it doesn't work, you can just get a divorce?
Do you have the same goals for your life together?
Do you WANT to be married to this person? Spend the rest of your life waking up next to them, sacrificing for them, compromising with them, loving them?
Best of luck making your decision.
2006-06-26 18:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Crooks Gap 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you both should be old enough to go into marriage with your eyes wide open. Your perspective mate should be your best friend. you should know how he or she reacts to adverse situations. If they are abusive now (verbal, emotional,or physical) marriage will only make it worse. You should speak openly and frankly to each other about all things including finances and sex. You should find out what the other person expects in a mate and honestly and truthfully examine yourself to see if you can honestly give him/her what they want. Can they give you what you want. COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION,COMMUNICATION is a must. It has to be open and honest. Sexual attraction is good even great but it will not make a marriage or keep it going for very long. know if your partner is good with money ( another divorce maker) Discuss children where you want to live and if your house will be a revolving door for in laws and friends. Get to know the person very few marriages work when the person has known each other for a very short time. Above all remember cinderella and snow white are just fairy tales. Marriage is hard work but it can be the best and most enjoyable work you can ever have.
2006-06-26 18:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty,#1 communication. whistles n bells do fade over time then you will have what is real. find in yourself what you want in a person n what you will accept as to behavior. you have to set your boundrys for yourself, it is so easy to submitt yourself n lose who you are , if you dont know what you want for yourself n your future,, wait until you do
2006-06-26 18:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by myce2meetu2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who you can honestly say is your best friend, and they know you are theirs too. Life gets a little crazy sometimes ... best to have your best friend with ya!. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 18:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by pickle head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋