tonite she had a 24 year old man CALL the house. we live in NY and him in california. my husband screened the call when we saw a california number on the id. we asked who he was and how he knew her. he said his name and that he met her online and she told him to call her and said she was 17. this is a very dangerous thing but I know just talking to her wont do much. anybody have any sites they know of that may contain scary stories of teenage murders, rapes and abductions that may show her the reality of her actions??
2006-06-26 17:37:44 · 16 answers · asked by leslie P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to show her that series of reports on Dateline NBC, "To Catch a Predator." It shows how these guys keeping coming to the house of a young kid they chatted with and end up getting arrested. They've had like five or six reports. Horny and dangerous old men who keeping getting caught one after the other.
And don't think that talking to her won't do any good. If your cousin is reasonable, you can help her to understand that the people chatting online are potentially dangerous. There are a lot of sick people out there and talking to strangers online is just as bad as talking to a stranger on the street. And if you really want to scare her straight, take her to your nearest police precinct and I'm absolutely positive any cop you pass can give her a story she'll never forget. Bet on it.
2006-06-26 17:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does everything have to be done by machine or institution these days? Try this...TELL HER PARENTS!!!! You didn't say why she lives with you, or even if she does live with you. If that's the case, then it's time for YOU to be her parents. There's an old fashioned method that used to work. I don't know if the sensors still exist today, but try taking an interest in her life, finding out who she is and what makes her tick. Then you'll have the grounds and knowledge base to begin counseling her as parents do. Don't rely on websites, teachers, shrinks, etc. to raise your kids; that's the very thing that steers them down the wrong road! Take an effing interest in the kid, show her that you genuinely care about her, how she feels, who she thinks she is, and what she wants to be and she won't feel the need to explore dangerous places and things. Of course, modern people with all their politically correct views and neo-parenting (foisting the job off on schools, shrinks, the Internet, etc.) will think I'm a nut. Well, you asked and I'm telling.
Sign me "A successful Dad and Grandpa" still young enough to know, or just
Bulldog
2006-06-27 00:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her on a tour of the police station and have a policeman show her photos of predators that they are looking for. Have the policeman tell her exactly what these child predator's crimes are.
Recently I read an article about a 14 y/o girl from the US that was chatted with a 30 y/o man from Belgium. Someway or another he sent her a passport and other ID and hd convinced her to not tell anyone. She flew to Belgium and met him. Her parents found out where she was and took a PI to Belguim with them. They found their daughter alive in this man's house. He had her handcuffed to the bathroom sink and would feed her very small amounts of food every 3 days or so. She was skin and bones and he did horrible things to her.
2006-06-27 00:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Montel Williams show had an excellent special on it. I was having problems with the same thing myself. Tell her its not worth it and it is really dangerous. The person she thinks she knows is not who they are. Stage some type of intervention with a friend of yours she doesn't know. Maybe have him plan to meet her and stage some sort of abduction just to get her thinking. It could be fatal if she continues.
2006-06-27 00:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, try dateline nbc. They've had several features where they posed online as young teens. The people who followed through were arrested of course, but they've got a decent link page to sites for missing and exploited children sites. She's treading in dangerous waters for sure. Try this site: http://www.perverted-justice.com/ This is the group that worked with dateline. Another site: http://www.cyberangels.org/ will give you info on how to protect your kids
2006-06-27 00:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG man she needs to stop im sry
well explain to her it isnt a game and ground her from the internet
dont just warn her becuase u need to warn her and let it sink in while she is away from the internet or else she will just get right back on and continue chatting
2006-06-27 00:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she doesn't give off any more important information....because just with a little imfo people can hunt you down.......just tell her not to get too into it...........let her know she cant meet him anywhere or tell him where she likes to hang out.......its a place online where just with your name and number people can find out where you live
2006-06-27 00:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by LaQuecia H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a movie, from hallmark i think... where a mom even desguises herself as a teenager to get this guy arrested.... you should look for this movie, sorry I don't remember the name.
Good luck!
2006-06-27 00:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she could get in big problems by giving people her phone number that it's ok to chat but not to give out any personal information
2006-06-27 00:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by sexychika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set it up so a man you know in disquise comes to the door and scare her so she stops
2006-06-27 00:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋