If you couldn't forgive somebody would you tell them or pretend like you did?

Answer 1

I would absolutely not pretend. I would look her in the eye and say Gotti, things will never be same between us since you got that new avatar. Then I'd just let it lie. I would never admit I actually missed her (very slightly) in her absence.

Answer 2

I could never lie or pretend if I were struggling to forgive someone. Forgiveness is freedom, since you don't have to carry the burden of the anger inside you, but it's difficult to truly forgive. By the way, if you forgive someone you SHOULD forget the issue. If I were struggling to forgive someone for a great transgression, I would be honest with the person, and tell them that I was still trying to forgive them, but not there yet. When you can truly forgive someone, you should tell them. But don't tell them if you don't mean it.

Answer 3

This is happening to me.
I have tried to forgive from deep down, and it has taken away some of the sting. However, I don't think I will ever have the same attitude toward that person as before.

If you can be humble enough to forgive and forget, congratulations - you have a rare quality.

On the other hand, some things cannot be forgiven.
It's up to you how you want to deal with it.

Answer 4

i might want to tell them, i don't love the deceit of pretending each and every thing's ok even as that isn't any longer. yet i might want to also artwork on myself; i imagine that is a negative element to be unable to forgive, so i might want to look at what became the set off that led to me to experience so damage that i could not get previous it. i might want to objective to achieve a more advantageous rational, a lot less impassioned decision. Forgiveness is major. residing with bitterness is amazingly gruesome.

Answer 5

I would tell them I can't forgive them and I need more time. Eventually I know I would have to especially if they did their part by asking for forgiveness. But I'll never forget!

Answer 6

That would depend on who the person was, and what the situation was. Certain people I would just never speak to again, and would tell them why if they asked. Others I might forgive, but I would remind them that I don't forget.

Answer 7

I would pretend that I did. Or more to the point I would forgive them but never forget it.

Answer 8

Depends on my motivation. Do i want revenge and want to serve it cold? Then i would do a sure i forgive you and get even later. If I just don't care I will tell them where they can go and directions to get there. True forgiveness is a hard thing.

Answer 9

I would tell them exactly what the score is if they ask. Otherwise, I wouldn't bother. I could never pretend I liked someone who did something to me that was unforgiveable. They'd be written off in my book.

Answer 10

You can always forgive.
Some people have the misconception that forgiving is also allowing the person access into your life. It does not.
As my wise little granny used to say, "You can forgive them, but you don't have to eat lunch with them."
Exactly.