my man is married and was attemting to get a divorce and she wouldnt let him, he says hes just confused and now he says that he wants to workthings out with his wife, but what do i do, where does that leave me? i realize im being terribly selfish and everything but should i fight for my man or let him try to be with his wife?
2006-06-26 17:08:36 · 30 answers · asked by dads_lil_girl_90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has never cheated on her, they were divorcing for a multitude of reasons but they never cheated on each other, the child is only a year old, and she is actually older than him, and im just so confused if i fight or let him go
2006-06-26 17:22:23 · update #1
Do you love him enough to put his happiness above yours?
Actually, it sounds like he has made the decision for you, he wants to work things out with his wife. Do you want to be the other woman on a permanent basis....is that what he wants?
The old saying goes something like this.....if you love someone, set them free, if they come back it was meant to be........
You'll always have your memories...nobody can take them from you.
2006-06-26 17:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by one_charmed_01 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have morals? You should only be with a man if he is single and disengaged or divorced, certainly not married!!!
Most married men don't leave their wives anyways, especially if there are kids involved. Are you sure he was even attempting to get a divorce as he said ... or that was a lie of his to have his affair with you???
Whether or not his wife wants a divorce, if he really did not want her and wanted you, trust me, when a man is in love, nothing in the world will stop him from having you, so he would have divorced his wife anyway to be with you.
Move on to someone who is single and available!!!
2006-06-27 00:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Angel_Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I guess this is going to sound cruel, but he's not your man. He never was. He was always married to his wife, and was likely to stay that way. That's the way it is in most every case of a woman who has a relationship with a married man. It comes down to the leave her or you're dead with me ultimatum, and the cheat-in' heart goes right back to the wife, professing undying devotion. It's a scenario as old as mankind. Sorry, it's just the way it is. You're in the cold.
2006-06-27 00:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you, i was in that situation only a few weeks ago. You are the rebound honey sorry,, let him go and try work things out with her if you really love him and you want him to be happy.
It leaves you out in the cold, it's no ones fault really, emotions get all mixed up in situations like this. If you are meant to be he will come back to you when he's ready, and to be honest with yourself, wouldn't you rather a man that loves only you . Thats where you have to realize your the only one that can really make you happy. My bf didn't end up going back to his wife after all, he realized he loved me now so there is hope for you, but you need to let him do what he needs to otherwise if you pressure him you may loose him forever.I wish you all the best :)
2006-06-27 00:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't listen to these women who will call you home wrecker. You aren't the one who made the commitment to her. Second, don't do anything. I know from experience. I'm going through it right now. Leave him be, he will contact you, he won't be able to resist. If the guy was cheating, he isn't happy in the marriage. They can try counseling and all that business but guess what? Most likely it will still end. I know it's difficult but try to lay low and hang in there. Even though he is with her now, you will be the one he is dreaming of, never forget that and good luck.
2006-06-27 00:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by bobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want him ? He cheats on his wife, and he cheats on you with his wife. Wake up and smell the coffee . HE IS A LOSER ,Don't you think he will cheat on you ,if you two get married?Find a nice single man ,who you can trust. This is for the best, you can do way better than him.
2006-06-27 00:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can it be your man if he's married to someone else? It's her man!! He married her for a reason. If he wants to work it out with her and she is willing; leave him be!! Go find your own man that is single and not taken. But make sure you remember the saying what comes around goes around!! OH!! and you are a home wrecker!!
2006-06-27 00:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - what are you doing with a married man? Are you the reason he wanted a divorce? If you are, then wake up! He's married!!
If you met him while he was trying to work through his divorce, then you should tell him how you feel, flat out truth, no drama!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-06-27 00:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him be with his wife. u shouldn't have started a relationship knowing he was married thats just wrong, does he have childeren think about them its hurting them too u know. don't break up a family, he's an asshole for thinking that he could do that and is not a real man. u can do better than him, find someone who loves u and is not married u will be better off and much more happy.
2006-06-27 00:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid that drama at all costs! Think about it this way, if he cheated on his wife, what would prevent him from cheating on you someday? Find a REAL man that is looking for a nice single girl.
2006-06-27 00:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by guy_in_n_metro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋