a lady is 55 years old and been married to a 45yr old that has done nothing but wrong to her in the past, cheating, hitting earlier in the relationship, etc..... now she done had a heart attack, cant work and cant pay her bills so she feels she has to stay with him and all his bullshit just to keep this roof over her head.....what should she do???
2006-06-26 16:48:49 · 21 answers · asked by jaybersdime1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think she should leave. He treated her the way he did, so that she would depend on him. Without her he is nothing. As long as she is with him he will continue to treat her with great disrespect.
He has no fear in his heart of loosing her. He has put her down so much thae she is brain washed.
2006-06-27 08:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by understanding 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coming from an abusive marriage of 15 yrs I say LEAVE. There are women shelters and numbers she can call for assistance. Change and the fear and uncertainty of the future are what keep women in those horrible situations. Along with a low self-esteem. Talk to friends, family, the police, Dept of human services. Anybody. Just get her out of there ASAP!
2006-06-26 16:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should kick that a -hole out on his butt.... she can get help from the goverment, like an invalids pension or something to keep the roof over her head and she's very deserving of it .no one should feel that they have to put up with abuse just to keep a roof over their heads.he's certainly not going to stay around for long and pay the bills and look after her so she needs to do this anyways, the sooner the better.
2006-06-26 16:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should contact a woman's shelter and get advice from someone there. He doesn't deserve her nor will he care for her properly. Sounds like a pretty self centered character. I don't call him a man because no REAL man would ever hit a woman.
2006-06-26 16:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by guy_in_n_metro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She need to wake up and smell the crap. I know deep down she know that dat man is treating her wrong, but she probably in denial because she love him. But the longer she wait to leave him the more she gon regret herself by the time she finally leave him, if she ever does. What she really need to do is leave dat good for nothing dog alone in da street where he belong and make him fend for himself. den she see what kind of stupid man she been wit for that past years when he start spiraling down in his life.
2006-06-26 17:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should leave this abusive man. She has already had a heart attack what else is the stress going to cause?
2006-06-26 16:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by dkcrouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweety i know the feeling my mom n law has same prob. first for her health she has to get out!!!!! my mom n law is looking for a roommate . alot of eldrly are doing that now. it's messed up but hard living in todays world. maybe she could try that our . what ever state your in should have low income homes for the elderly. i hope you & her can find some help makes me angry to see the eldely missed treated . they should put the abuser under the jail...
2006-06-26 17:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by kefa1776 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE!!! She should not ever feel that she has to live the rest of her life unhappy with someone who is completely undeserving of her. Maybe she could stay with a friend or family until she can get situated. Tell her, "YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO LIVE IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU FEEL LIKE S***!"
2006-06-26 16:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, nobody deserves abuse from their husbands no matter what they do. And especially with him putting her down all of the time nobody deserves that either (especially a woman) I definately think that that woman needs to leave the man before he really does hurt her.
2006-06-26 16:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsey G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically she has to want to leave you can't tell her what to do . ITs easier to stay than to leave she loves him that why she haven't left and she probably thinking she to old to start over .Can she leave him and move in with you if not leave her alone unless she the one asking the question it doesn't matter what she should do
2006-06-26 16:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by nikenzienianca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋